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writes:Hey everyone , so me and my boyfriend were doing fine , I thought untill one day he decided to take "a break". He is a senior and works a lot and is spending a lot of time with his friends that are moving away for college along with dealing with scholarships, volunteer hours, etc.he said he didnt want to end up losing me. I didn't mind seeing him that much since I knew there was a lot going on in his life. I've been telling him that but now he is telling that I shouldn't wait for him because he feels bad he might let me down. I don't know if he likes me anymore he says yes but no. I'm so confused and I keep asking him what's really going on. I'm really confused and really hurt. I text him a lot and I feel pathetic afterwards, I feel like I wouldn't have too if he was more clear with me and would explain himself better. I don't know if this is a break or breakup I'm so confused he was all over me a few weeks ago and literally over night that all changed.i really wish I could have him back in my life but I don't know what to do, I don't even know what's going on exactly. Any advice ,please try telling me to text him I already tried that and it makes me look really pathetic.please help!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 January 2013):
 It's probably a temporary break leading up to the permanent break up
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 January 2013):
 Maybe he means it as a break, but you should turn it into a permanent break up. He 's doing his me first thing, putting his ebergy into everything and everybody but your relationship, and, much probably, testing the eaters and having a look around in case more interesting options come up. If after a while of keeping you on hold, he really has not found anything more enticing, well, worst case scenario he can always come back to old reliable you, because he did not officially break upo, oh no, it was just a break.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (8 January 2013):
 "he decided to take A BREAK". That means goodbye. Sorry to be brutally honest here but this guy is stringing you along. Trying to let you down nicely.
Ok, so he "works a lot and is spending a lot of time with his friends that are moving away for college along with dealing with scholarships, volunteer hours, etc."
Are you telling me he cannot find any time at all for you? If he really wanted to be with you he'd make time. Sounds like excuses to me (like when a girl tells me she can't make the date because she has a house meeting, followed by gym and then she's off early to work next day and then off with her friends on a weekend away". If he liked you, he'd find the time like I'm sure you would (for him).
So "now he is telling that I shouldn't wait for him because he feels bad he might let me down". He's letting you go? Feels guilty about giving you the runaround and not being man enough to tell you it's over more like.
This guy is a wimp.
"I don't know if this is a break or breakup"
I don't want to sound harsh but it is a breakup. I'm sorry. And I'm sorry you're wimpy guy can't just come out and tell you. Girls do this sort of thing to guys all the time. So he should know better than to string it out. He thinks he's being nice and letting you down gently. INstead, it's tantamount to torture (for you).
"i really wish I could have him back in my life but I don't know what to do, I don't even know what's going on exactly."
Why would you want to be with someone who is too busy to see you? Who can't make time to see you? No matter how busy the schedule there is no excuses. You're telling me he can't spare one evening a week? Or a couple of hours a week even?
"Any advice ,please try telling me to text him I already tried that and it makes me look really pathetic"
My advice is, delete his number and don't make any contact at all. If, after a few weeks, he contacts you then tell him you're too busy. MOVE ON. Find someone who wants to spend time with you and will make time for you. This guy ain't interested and he's a wimp.
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