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30-35,
anonymous
writes: I was single for a year, my last relationship my ex was emotionally abusive to me, i was a scared of him, i was not allowed to have friends or go out.we worked at the same place and he would pick my shifts so they were with his. He would put me down all the time and i was never allowed to voice my feelings. there is more to it but that is a basic example.the most that hurt was that he would often tell me off for wanting to voice things i was unhappy with. reminding me that my feelings were inadequate. I eventually plucked up the courage to end things.I am now in a new relationship, after a year of being single, i thought i would have healed and got over any scars. but my current boyfriend tells me amazing things, and whenever there is an an emotional moment, i find myself crying. He has been lovely about it and said he just wants to make me happy in any way he can. That i mustn't be embarrassed because to him it shows how much it means to me.but i feel quite embarrassed because i am not sure why this is happening. I am very happy and he is nothing like my ex. but i don't understand why i feel so overwhelmed when he says personal or has an emotional moment with me. any insight would be appreciated.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (8 January 2013):
 I don't really know. I'm not a woman.
You have gone from one extreme to another.
You've gone from some macho-idiot who abused you and told you what to do and controlled you to someone who wants to do everything they can to make you happy, put you first, and put themselves second.
Maybe it overwhelms you because when you compare the two relationships you can't believe someone is being so nice to you?
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