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female
age
30-35,
*issAnnonimus
writes:It will be 4 years this year that i m with my current bf...in distance relationship.We ve been madly in love since we met n last fall i was supposed to move to his country n continue university there but since we didnt manage to do that,we blamed each other,argued a lot and at the end broke up.Omg that was the worst period in my life!I also felt so bad that guy that was swearing that he would move mountains 4 me let me go just like that!Our problem was distance,and i deeply think that if u r guy n say u love girl as much as u say u can fix that?Do u think i m crazy 4 thinking that?Cause he has flat and a good job,and i m still student but if tables were turned i know that we d be long ago on one spot happy :(Short after that we made up,cause we couldnt be without each other and he promised he d do anything if i comeback to him and how he ll fix situation but its been a while and nothing is happening!I m getting nervous cause soon i ll have to send documents to faculties from there.He told me that its my job to move to his country cause he bough a flat and now its my turn.Also,what concerns me is that i catcht him often looking at pics when he was younger and partying all the time n vacationing with his friends..also he bought a house in building next to his friends,he gave em key of his house n not to me???like u dont need it u r not here! :@ He s all the time hanging out with one imature friend of his and told me how he wanna go on vacation with him this year!Do you think thats normal?He ll be 27 this year and i m much younger and dont have the need to party as much and go on vacations with my friends!And the problem with him going on vacation with that friend is not that i dont trust him,i do,i just cant believe that he still has the need 4 that :@ he sees him all the time and also we may need extra money 4 moving :(Few days ago,when i was with him,he bought a game and started playing it while i was there,even though i just came 2 weeks and we dont have luxury like other couples to be all the time together :(I told him what i think,and he said its not like that,how i m over thinking,how he needs friends and his space :O but still wants me to move in!I mean on one side i know how much he loves me and he s very serious with some things,has a good job and bought his own flat but i often feel i m more mature and i get scared that when i move he ll be all the time with his friend and going on vacations n living me alone :(So what do u think?I m veryyyy good with giving advices to other people but i can never help myself...I feel like exploding and just cant take this distance anymore but i love him soooo much and i would do anything 4 him!I m such a good gf to him,i know he s more that satisfied with me,so what am i doing wrong?:(Every time he seems me falling appart on airports-but does nothing....and my strength is leaving me :(
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (8 January 2013):
 It's different for different guys. A lot can depend on what life experiences they've had. I grew up pretty quick compared to some people I know. I moved out of home when I was 19-20 years old, my Father died when I was 23 years old. I've had to grow up and mature probably a lot quicker.
One thing I will say, if his friend is immature and, from you say, they seem very close, then chances are he is too (I don't know him so I'm taking an educated guess here).
However, he is 27. He's not 30. He's out having a good time and enjoying himself doing whatever he wants. Some 25 year olds I know are mature. However, some 40 year olds I know still act like little boys.
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