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*neBlackGuy13
writes:I am genuinely not physically happy, but she gives me every thing else I need. Security, love, and compassion are what she encompasses, but she lacks the intimacy and sexual fulfillment that I long for. I honestly don't know what happened, I mean I cannot climax with her. She is beautiful, sexy even, but physically the connection is lost. I do not know what to do. I am very physical, very oral, cater to her as I know her body and its secret places of sexual explosion. But I don't think she knows or wishes to know mine. She doesn't pleasure me orally, and she prefers the bottom or doggy. Those are only two positions she does and there is no interaction from her while in those positions. It's like I'm humping a log with a soft hole. I am tired of pleasuring myself, and I will not step out on her but I am not happy physically. I do not know what to do. I even go limp while I'm inside of her. It hurts me to even say that. I try to think of her when I pleasure myself, but I don't climax. What do I do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2013): Perhaps you've said things to her previously about the way she looks and is now selfconscience. She probably isn't happy physically either. I would openly discuss the problem and if my husband/boyfriend felt this way, I'd want him to discuss it with me. Having had three children, I prefer doggy style and being on the bottom. It's a comfort thing, especially if she is insecure with her body. Also, if you go limp inside of her, she probably feels as if you're not attracted to her and likely assumes you are having other sexual relations. Still, if you're not being satisfied you need to talk to her because this will only force you to find pleasure elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): If you are going limp inside her, can't climax with her and are telling her you basically hate your sex life with her then she probably doesn't feel very sexy. I certainly wouldn't feel like having more adventurous sex with my boyfriend if I felt I was a failure at even the most basic sex with him - my confidence would be shot to pieces! Maybe try to build up her confidence a bit more by telling her when she does something you do like instead of pointing out all she is doing wrong? When she starts to feel better about her performance you can start suggesting more variety. And I agree about getting a check up too, because even if the sex isn't the most exciting, the sensations should still be enough to make you climax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): I have tried talking to her. She says she doesn't know what is wrong and she is just comfortable in those positions. I dunno it's just frustrating
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reader, person12345 +, writes (2 January 2013):
 Have you tried talking to her about it?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 January 2013):
 Does she know what you've described in this submittal? If not, why not start by sharing this (submittal) with her?
IF you have (spoken with her)... then two other thoughts come to mind: 1. your having a physical exam, to confirm that all systems are "Go" in your body, and, 2. You and she seek counselling and discuss this before a professional who may be able to offer guidance....
Good luck.....
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