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writes:I am perfectly, ecstatically happy with my boyfriend. We've been together for eight months, and have learned how to open up, how to love, how to communicate, so many "how"s, and we absolutely adore each other. We're compatible emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually, and I'm sure a few ways I haven't listed here. We help each other grow daily.Not to say that things haven't been rough. We've been through agonizing times, too, but the open, honest way we've dealt with our problems has me greatly heartened for the future. We talk marriage, kids, and a long-term future regularly. There was never a doubt in my mind what I'd say when he proposes (because he will)...until now. Last month, I talked to a psychic over the phone. Not one who charges -- a co-worker saw my distress over a few issues in my life, and called his mother (the psychic) and placed the phone to my ear. At first she didn't "get" much, but then the information flowed thick and fast. The things she couldn't have known: she physically described my mother (short brown hair) and her attitude towards me (worries constantly, wants to be my friend, doesn't want to judge but disapproves of my cohabitation with my boyfriend because of her strong religion) correctly. The fact that my boyfriend takes *everything* personally, but not in the traditional sense (it would take too long to explain, but this is correct). The down side? That she came down hard on my boyfriend from the very beginning and didn't let up. She said that he was dragging me down. That he was controlling in a sweet, insidious kind of way and wants me to stay home and cook, so he can control me. That he is terrified of my schooling and impending career because his ex left him after she made him pay for her schooling (this last part I fed her, it was cold-read). That he feels stuck in this city because of custody issues (true). That he would do anything for his son (true) and that he is good at planning but horrible at executing career moves and the many genius entrepreneurial plans he makes. To go worse, that in the end he is just a learning experience for me. That he is not "the one." That I will leave him for another man, the "love of my life." That I am "fundamentally" secure and he is "fundamentally" insecure, thus I am "superior" to him and we cannot work out. At this point I went cold, froze hard, and felt like my life as I'd built it was over. Reflecting very deeply on the things she said, it was honestly 50/50 for the things that are confirmable right now. I told my honey the negative things she said about him, and we BOTH reflected deeply to see if maybe she was right. We've seen each other's ugly sides, told each other our deepest fears, and I honestly think that while he is a little tweaked that maybe I'll become a teacher and leave him, it definitely does not make him controlling. He is the very opposite of codependent. If I'm not being a strong, independent woman, he HATES it. This woman said we had been together for two months, when in reality it had been seven. Overall, the reading had some definite hits but the rest sounded like she read someone else's fortune on a cloudy day. There was also some amount of cold reading going on. The problem is that the hits made the rest seem so damn credible, and I'm wondering where my free will has gone. I want to be with this man. We have money troubles, we don't travel, he has a five-year-old, but he is my love, my heart and soul, and I knew that the first time we were drawn together from a great distance to meet and look into each other's eyes. I love him dearly. Every time he seems to overcome an intimacy hurdle to "take the next step" with me, energetically, I'm the one who's the commitment-phobe here -- because I'm afraid it won't last. That it's destined not to last. That I won't fulfill my true potential if it lasts. That I can love him all day long, as much as I can, and nothing I do or say can make it last. In short, this woman has poisoned me against my lover, and I'm a believer in self-fulfilling prophecies. Ladies and gents, please proceed to give me all your stories giving me hope in the future of my (fantastic) relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): This is going to sound really cheesy, but it's just the truth. I'm a big believer in intuition. I believe fully that we all already can predict our own future, & we don't need someone who doesn't know us to predict it for us. If I want to know what's going to happen in my future, I go somewhere quiet, try to rid myself of all other thoughts, really concentrate & ask myself a question, your guts will tell you any answers you need to know.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (2 January 2013):
 You are focusing on the negative things she has said as if it were gospel and must be true when you then admit she was incorrect about quite a few other things and most of what she said was based on what you said and cold reading. I'm sorry but psychics are total crap. It's purely for entertainment value. People tend to hear the things that they want to hear which ring true and ignore all that was incorrect, just as you have. No one on earth can predict the future and this lady is no exception.
It reminds me of horoscopes to be honest. My zodiac sign is supposedly the worst match to my husbands, says we could never make it yet we are married. His parents also have mismatching signs which say they are incompatible, yet they have been married for almost 30 years. I once dated a guy who was my 'perfect match' and we lasted 3 months...
The point is its all crap and relationships are what you make it. Would you really dump your boyfriend over something a psychic told you could happen in the future? Of course you aren't. So all you can do is go along with your relationship and see what happens as it happens. If you do end up breaking up in the future it doesn't mean this woman was correct either, even a broken clock is right twice a day. She made guesses that could or could not come true. Just focus on your relationship and handle issues if they come up when they come up, don't create issues that haven't even happened yet. You could still very much end up happy together forever as you hoped, what a psychic says has no bearing on what the future actually holds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): Just because the psychic is clairvoyant about things that already have come to pass, doesn't mean she is right about things that haven't happened yet. That's totally different.
A friend of mine regularly consulted a traditional chinese psychic (we are Chinese and live in the States as well as Taiwan) related to career and personal relationships. The psychic was right about a few things such as describing perfectly what was going on right now or had already happened with very little info from you so it was impressive. But a lot of the predictions didn't come true or only came half true.
For example the psychic predicted my friend would in a year's time be involved in several business ventures and described those in detail and predicted which would be successful. Well it turned out he was right about the nature of the business ventures that came along a year later. But he was wrong about which ones would be successful because it turned out so far none of them were successful!
The psychic also predicted to another friend that there would be a marriage proposal in the next year. Sure enough her bf proposed marriage a few months later. But what the psychic didn't predict is that they ended up having a huge fight and broke off the engagement and completely broke up permanently.
Therefore I wouldn't take your psychic's predictions too seriously.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 January 2013):
 May I apologize in advance? .....Then, tell you that I got a fortune cookie at Chinese restaurant tonight, and it said: "Tell her to ignore the psychic"
Good luck.....
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