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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I have a really close group of female friends and have been.since school age really. I moved over here when i was 13 as my mum and dad divorced and she remarried my stepfather, and he moved to ireland for work reason. Anyway i was really lonely and this one girl became my friend. And shortly after we had our group. Now shes dating a guy who is a extreme flirt, she knows he is and she hates it but wont say anything to him or let us! Over christmas, me and my boyfriend had a house warming / christmas party, to which they came. I knew straight away they had been fighting as she had red eyes and he was ingoring her. So i confronted him and told him it wasnt right how he treats he. He starts being flirty with me at this point so i told him he wasnt gods gift to women and he just laughed at me. Next thing i know he put his hand on my lower back and pulled me really close to him and tried to kiss me. I screamed for him to let me go and another male who was stood near the door to the kitchen, came and told him to let go. This idoit has now told my friend i tried to kiss him and put my hand down his pants, shes so blind she believes him even after my boyfriends mate ( who got him off me ) told her what happened. She wont answer my calls or texts and to make matters worst my boyfriend punched the idoit and got himself arrested. I just dont know what to do!We have all tried to talk to her and make her see his true colours but nothings working.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (2 January 2013):
The nice thing about "friendships" (as opposed to "marriages") is that, when a "friend" behaves inappropriately, or naively, or in any other way that is not in your mutual-best-interest, you can simply dump him/her from your roster of friends....
I suggest that you do that with this one...
Good luck....
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reader, Lolahip  +, writes (2 January 2013):
 Play her game. If you see her in the corridor give her an icy glare and push past her , saying something like 'your boyfreinds a perv' and stuff to get her going. when she confronts you , tell her how you feel and what really happened. if she stil believes you , well , I Would out a move on her boyfreind and get him to kiss you , then push him away and yell 'Get off me , cheat!' but film it and edit it so it only shows him kissing you then you pushing away , so when you show it her she'll see he's a cheat.
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reader, Warm-Inspire +, writes (2 January 2013):
 Your friend is blinded by love and/or brainwashed by her boyfriend.There is no real easy way to tackle your suituation if shes refusing to believe you or the bystander and unfortunately probably never will. You say shes aware of him being flirtatious but until shes witnessed his physical behaviour (i.e trying to make a move on someone) with her own eyes she will continue to be a pushover and believe everything he says.Secondly, if you said previously that you and your friends have said that hes obviously no good and want to confront him, this indicates to her that you're probably trying to split them up and might of pulled some form of stunt to frame him.You're better off letting her believe what she wants to believe for the time being because shes obviously having none of the truth. Save your efforts, just be ready with a box of tissues and an I told you so for when she finds out the hard way.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 January 2013):
 She's in denial, best just leave her alone until she comes out of it. Hopefully she will eventually see her boyfriend for what he is and get fed up. Let her have the time she needs to deal with it.
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