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writes:So i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we've talked about having sex when I stay at his at end of this month. Thing is, he doesnt want to use a condom. He has been checked and has no std's and neither do I. I'm also on the pill. Is it ok not to use one? Everything I read says he HAS to use one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your advice everyone :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): I know someone who swore she took the pill regularly but still managed to get pregnant twice and the last pregnancy was twins! Using condoms for extra protection is always a good idea. Some guys don`t like using them but they are not the ones that find themselves with unexpected pregnancies and all that that entails. Do what feels right for you not what feels `better` for a guy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): I say you should use a condom. Being a guy myself, I will honestly tell you your boyfriend is only thinking about himself by not wanting to use one. What if you get pregnant and he decides he's too young to be a daddy and he runs a mile leaving you to deal with all the decisions?
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reader, Kell0804  +, writes (3 January 2013):
I'm 3 months pregnant and I was ON birth control when I got pregnant. The pill is NOT a 100% fail safe. You're very young don't risk it. Use protection!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2013): Like what one of the users mentioned, one of my friends also got pregnant when she was on the pill... She and her bf decided to keep the baby but they were forced to make a choice.
If you don't want to take the risk of being in stats of unplanned pregnancies then use a condom!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 January 2013):
 IF you are both STD free (BTW one test is not enough you need a test and then six months later with no new partners another test) and you are 100% compliant on the pill (and yet still willing to risk that very slight chance of getting pregnant on it) then yes I say you can go without condoms.
I never used them when on the pill at your age but of course there were no STDs that could kill us back then either.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 January 2013):
 Better safe then sorry. It doesn't really that THAT much for the pill to be ineffective.
Some medication, such as antibiotic can render it useless and then you would have to wait a WHOLE month to be perfectly sure again, any kind of throwing up, stomach flu/bug can also render it less useful.
LEARN from a young age to use both. Not just for your sake but for that of your partner. BE responsible about sex.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 January 2013):
 When were you both checked? Has he slept with anyone else between his last test and meeting you?
If you were going to be 100% safe then technically yes, you should use a condom as well as the pill. But if you have both been tested recently, and you have had at least a full month where you have taken your pill at the same time each day, and you havent had any illnesses that could interfere with the pill - then you should be ok.
I have been on the pill since I was 16 and I dont use condoms and have never had a pregnancy scare. My rule has alawys been to use condoms and the pill until we have both been tested for STI's, then once the results are all clear we can stop using the condoms.
But as everyone else has said, you are very young and pregnancy or a STI at your age would not be good. So pehaps it would be best to air on the side of caution and use a condom. But it is up to you, whatever you feel comfortable with. It is unlikely anything bad will happen if you take the pill properly every day, but there is always a risk so its your choice whether you take the risk or not.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 January 2013):
 Kenny is correct. You only need a tummy upset, a virus, or to throw up for some reason one day and Voila! Your protection can be lost.
I think two forms of protection is better than one.
And an unplanned pregnancy at your age would be a major issue to deal with.
Plus you can make the steps of putting on the protection as part of the fun.
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reader, kenny +, writes (2 January 2013):
 The pill is not 100% effective, i have known a few girls who have been on the pill to have become pregnant. At your young age i would not risk it to be honest and would recomend that he use condoms just to be on the safe side.
Good luck
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