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writes: I have been with my husband for three years marrird for two.I am very depressed .my husband watches porn while I am at work.He doesnt work or do anything around the house.I tried to talk to him about this but he days he doesnt have a problem.He lies to me sayd he doesnt go on it but I see it on his search history on his phone.I even tried to get to him to watch it with me but he says no.I dont know what to do I love him very much but he doesnt realize how much this is hurting me inside
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (2 January 2013):
Why doesn’t he work or do anything around the house? Laziness, or does he have a good reason for this? What exactly are you getting from this marriage? A workshy husband who presumably relies heavily on your money, who then does something that many people would regard as a form of cheating by watching porn, presumably in full knowledge of how much it hurts you. If you’ve not told him how hurtful this is to you, then do so. And while you’re at it, give him a time period by which you expect things to change, such as he either starts doing stuff around the house or takes positive steps to find work. If nothing changes when this time period is up, kick him out. As for his viewing of porn he should seek counselling if he genuinely feels he can’t stop viewing it, rather than choosing to continue viewing it.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (2 January 2013):
Ask him how he'd feel if you started watching porn for women featuring muscular guys with six packs, perfect butts, beautiful hair (only on their head) and huge... personalities.
That's what my wife asked me and then I realized at that point that, although women misunderstand what most men get out of porn, it still isn't right if it hurts the woman you love.
Most likely he's not dreaming of being with these women and wishing you looked like them so don't feel insecure by it. Men are just very visual while women tend to be more into the emotional aspect of sex which can't be as easily serviced by watching porn.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 January 2013):
 I can't resist to ask: Are you the breadwinner for this household?
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