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41-50,
*enLoveMe
writes:He told me a couple months ago he was coming to my state to see his father and wanted to see me. This gave me anxiety because he made sex comments on Facebook a few weeks earlier. He has been trying to get to me for years!!We have a very messy and complicated past. It took decades of healing before I could speak to him again and now we keep in touch but communicate sparingly. He is attracted to me still, but I am no longer attracted to him. I feel vulnerable because I like sex and I don't want to give in to him and later regret it. So, I made excuses and would not invite him over (I even felt ill the whole time he was in town). He texted me when he was leaving and immediately I began to recover! I am beginning to think he is maintaining contact to keep tabs on me and attempt to have me (probably to prove something to himself). There really does not seem to be another reason to communicate, though we do have many friends in common. My family loves him and his family loves me. I feel I am getting weaker nd he will be back in my town next week. He had already told me he is looking to get his hands on me. HELP!!!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (2 January 2013):
 We are very clear on that, you dont like him as anything more than a friend, yet he is still trying to get into your knickers. He is not a good guy, he is no friend to you so follow our advice and block him from ever contacting you again.
Friends dont want to get each other into bed, so if he wants sex from you then he is no friend. You dont need him in your life, so get rid and move on.
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reader, MenLoveMe +, writes (2 January 2013):
MenLoveMe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Please note: I do not have feelings for him outside of friendship. We never had a sexual relationship. But he has always wanted to have sex with me and still cares. He broaches the subject with me nearly every time we speak to one another. I am not attracted to him and have not been for years.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 January 2013):
I really dont understand this - this man makes you feel ill, you are not attracted to him and you cant find a reason to still communicate - so WHY ON EARTH ARE YOU STILL TALKING TO HIM?
This is really simple - send him a message saying you no longer want to be in contact with him anymore as you have moved on, ask him not to contact you again. Then delete him from Facebook, delete his phone number, email address etc. Make sure there is no way to contact him at all. If he still tries to contact you, then call your cell phone provider and ask them to block his number from contacting you. If he contacts you on Facebook, block him and he cant contact you again.
It is irrelevant if his family like you and vice versa, they will get over it. You dont want this man in your life, so cut him out of your life amd move on. It sounds very much like he is trying to use you for sex, so dont allow yourself to weaken to him and delete him from your life. That way you can be happy without him and wont have to hear from him ever again.
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reader, R1 +, writes (2 January 2013):
 Block him on Facebook. It takes a long time to get over someone but no time at all to fall for them again.
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