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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My wife's fulfilled sexually but I am not. Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have tried masturbating but find it difficult to keep a solid erection. I am specifically masturbating to get over premature ejaculation. I am trying stop-start but everytime I stop I become flaccid which is nothign like it is in the bedroom where I'm hard at pretty m... (86 words)

I'm seeing a guy who's not 100% certain about us.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've recently started dating this guy. He's smart, good-looking, fit and we have really good intellectual conversations. I feel a connection between us - he really understands me and he's very open-minded and sweet. He was engaged to a woman for a month who he was with for six ... (182 words)

How do I make my self not care anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - How do I make myself feel confident? I honestly feel ugly but I know im not. I dont really know how too explain it. Its like.. Im just always so self concious and insecure when I go out too places because I know someone is better looking than me and/or a cute boy or even ... (91 words)

Would you be upset if your bestfriend started "fooling around" with someone that you absolutely hated?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Would you be upset if your bestfriend started "fooling around" with someone that you absolutely hated? Back gorund story sorry if its long. im 18 an both my bf and bestfriend are 20 My bestfriend is also my boyfriends bestfriend (my boyfriend has known him alot longer tho) Thr... (392 words)

Is she playing hard to get?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been talking to this girl for the past 2 weeks and I've told her that I like her and she said that she likes me too. We would always text each other everyday and flirt. But last sunday we were supposed to hang out, but she cancel on me last min...ever since... (119 words)

I encouraged my friend to be honest, and now she is blaming me because her boyfriend might leave her.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay, this may get a little confusing, but bear with me here please. I have had the same best friend for almost four years which isn't too long but for a high school girl friendship, that's an eternity. We've had our ups and downs, some my fault, some hers but for the most... (522 words)

Are cold sores herpes?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, this may be a bit stupid but please bare with me. I'm 20 years old and I've just found out I have herpes simplex type 1. I haven't been tested, I've been told that cold sores are herpes? I've had cold sores since I was a baby and I didn't know anything about them being... (123 words)

Please tell me how to help my friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 22-25 - My life is a mess.... Three of my closest friends have mental illnesses and are having counselling, one of my friends self harms but I dont know how to help, I feel like everyone hates me because one of the friends with depression get angry easily and is convinced I ignore her! ... (89 words)

I met up with my ex after not seeing for a year but I'm confused about how things went

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so my ex and I first got together in 2006, we were like high school sweethearts and were together for just over a year, then out of nowhere he drops the bombshell that he doesn't think its working anymore, no real explanation. I've never had another real relationship but ... (497 words)

We played doctor when we were kids and now my friend wants to do it again. Whats that all about?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, Okay, so me and a friend have known eachother all our lives and when we were young kids we'd "play doctor". We're both guys 19 years old now. Often he proposes doing it again, because it was a lot of fun, it wasn't anything serious just oral and handjobs. We ... (114 words)

Married 27 years, love each other like brother/sister. Do I stay here miserable or move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm 45 years old. I married my wife when I was 17, and we've been married for 27 years. We've raised 4 kids together and we have 3 grandkids. Our relationship has been very tough almost from the beginning. We have separated a few times, but I always return out of a feeling of ... (198 words)

My friend has depression but won't talk to me about things!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 22-25 - Hey. My friend has depression and I need help so I can help her but she won't tell me her problems! She is my best friend and has told me lots of things (like about counselling and things she wouldn't tell others) but when she's down she never tells me why! I feel like its me ... (104 words)

I have a terminal illness and my husband will not give me affection!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - my husband and i have been married for almost 8 yrs and have a 3 yr old daughter, i have been fighting brain cancer for 5 yrs and lost 100 lbs. now he wont hug kiss or touch me, he says he loves me, but all we do is argue. anytime i need some affection he goes straight to sex ... (150 words)

I'm loving 2 men and not able to decide between them!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I really, really need advice because I'm desperately unhappy and hopelessly confused. I used to be in a relationship with a guy (say X) two years ago. It was an intense, passionate relationship but there was trouble from the beginning. I didn't like his casual approach ... (743 words)

She doesn't want me to go out with my friends but she doesn't want to be with me. I'm confused

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Well me and the girlfriend have been on rocky terms for a month now. We have a child and have dated for over 2 years. Recently we broke up, and then when we start to get ok, she doesn't want to be with me and such. I see in her eyes that it's not what she wants because she ... (703 words)

How do you stay friends after breaking up? Is it possible?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - i was with my boyfriend for 1year and 9 months, yesterday he broke up with me, we agreed to stay friends, i havent seen him since but i think that it is doable, but others say staying friends is impossible, what can i do to make it easier to stay friends? i cant lose him we ... (63 words)

I found photos of female co-workers butts on my boyfriends phone. He says I'm crazy but could he be screwing around?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So my fiancé and I got engaged in June this year. We had a baby together late last year. We have trust issues. Him because o his very serious ex relationship, and me because he is naturally a flirt and used to be a player before his ex. He used to work in a restaurant where he ... (321 words)

Why does my 50 year old boyfriend sleep with his mother?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Is it normal fort a 50 some year old guy to choose to sleep in the same bed with his Mom when there are other beds/sleeping arrangements available? My boyfriend makes a habit of doing this and I find it creepy.... (41 words)

What is it about these actions I do during sex that turns him on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone i have a question for the Guys; When my husband and i have sex it seems like he likes it more when im giving him a hand job my knee to be pushed on his balls and during sex he comes fast when i suck on his finger. Can you please let me know what it is that turns hi... (67 words)

Why does he take so long to respond to my texts? Should I do the same with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F) - I met someone from online..we have been out about 5 times so far. Things seem to be going well and he seems to be interested. I have been trying to keep things fun, have a good sense of humor etc. I actually met some of his friends and family already. That is great and sweet in ... (469 words)

I've been dating my friend for the past year but he doesn't want any of our mutual friends nor his family to know about it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I am been dating my friend for past 1 year, but he doesn't want any of our mutual friends to know. He hasn't introduced me to his friends or his family. Recently he asked me not to send any text messages, i usually don't send much messages, but once in a while ... (135 words)

How do I try and get my boyfriend to be more adventurous in bed without scaring him or making him feel pressured?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so I'm in a lovely relationship with a guy who has only had a two week relationship prior to me. However, although the physical side is good I feel unfulfilled by it. Maybe because with my Ex we had a very exciting sex life and tried lots of things. He holds a rather c... (116 words)

What if these guys don't like my photos on facebook and stop talking to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm being shallow, but am I being stupid thinking this. I mean of course, most the time guys don't think in the same way girls do. Anyway, Facebook is of course what teenager use a lot of. Well, These two guys who i've been talking to for a while after meeting them at ... (229 words)

Husband insists on going clubbing without wife - why

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4537 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age - So here's my problem in a nutshell I believe my husband is having a midlife crisis and I don't see a way back from this - so any advice will be appreciated. We are both in our forties and some months ago he started going out with his friends on a Friday night - evry Frid... (380 words)

My cousin has been hitting on my closest friends and causing trouble

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I met my long-lost second cousin by chance, we were both happy to have met a relative as we are both away from our families working on foreign soil. On first impressions he seemed wonderful: charming, smart, and intelligent. It also transpired we were both gay, which was cool ... (509 words)

I don't want to be married anymore! How do I tell my husband?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age - i'm married and i'm not in love with my husbandi have know feelings for him anymore, when he touch me i don't feel anything...i don't want to be married anymore...how do i tell him that i want how of this marriage without being so blunt... (45 words)

I accused my wife of lying about being on a porn site and now she is filing divorce papers

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Someone please give me advice! I have recently got back with my wife after a seperation. we live seperate and have for the past two years. We decided not to sign divorce papers because we both agreed we still loved each other and our reasons for seperation were petty. We both ... (222 words)

He had sex with his ex. Do I forgive and forget?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok My ex-boyfriend tryed to breakup with me, he said maybe we should be friends. But then I was saying sorry, so he said forget about everything. So he came over and I started crying, then he said he wouldn't leave me ect. Then we had sex, so then when i called him he started ... (364 words)

If this online guy has lied about simple stuff like this, I don't know what more he could lie about!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 18 year old girl. Im pretty mature, not kiddish at all. I met a guy on a penpal site around 3 years ago and he introduced himself as just John (name obviously changed). He told me he was 24 then (should be 27 now) We eventually lost touch after a few months of chatting ... (395 words)

I'm truly in love with this girl who's my younger sister's best friend but she's in a relationship with an idiot of a boyfriend who's a friend of mine

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - So there's this girl and she's fantastic. Into comic books, rock music, astronomy, the whole nine yards with me. It's simply a bonus that she's absolutely beautiful and knows how to have a good time. Two major problems, however: she's my 18 year old sister's best friend (I'm ... (524 words)

Why does my girlfriend resent me making achievements?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am confused as to why my girlfriend of 18 months seems to resent me achieving anything. No matter what I do, she knows someone who did it better. Whatever I paid she knows where I could have purchased it cheaper. Her friends boyfriends all seem to have better cars, better ... (81 words)

Is it reasonable to want to have a wedding but not get married legally?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm talking to my ex again and things are heading in the right direction. However, I recently inherited a lot of money so my life is going to be very different. I'm planning to travel a lot and I'm not planning to have a "real" job. I just want to spend life enjoying my hobbies ... (189 words)

My boyfriend Jake or the new guy Brad?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't even know where to begin with this one. It's gonna be a LONG read, sorry guys. I guess I'll just jump right in.. So I have been with my boyfriend (Let's call him 'Jake') for a year and a half. I'm turning 23 and he's turning 24. We had a pretty great relationsh... (1460 words)

What does true love feel like?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I dont think i have ever known true love. from your point of view what does it feel like?... (19 words)

My g/f was a prom queen. I think I'm jealous of her. Is that what it is I"m feeling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been with my girlfriend for a while and all is great. She was prom queen at her school so you can imagine how i felt when we started dating. She is 21 and i am 26. Before we met, she was with a jackass for about 4 years, they broke up, she was single for 6 months and ... (285 words)

I'm in a rut and don't see my life going anywhere! This isn't what I want!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. Would really love some advice. I'm approaching 32 and feeling my life isn't going anyway and should give up. I also am do jealous of my best friend who is 3 years younger then me and suddenly has the perfect life. I'm female, average looking and slightly overweig... (571 words)

The love is gone, she's refusing to let me see my children. Do I start divorce proceedings?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi all - my wife and I have been married 4 years and things have been turbulent from the start - we have two young children aged 2 and 3 1/2.When we got married we moved in to my partners home and this is were a lot of trouble has started from - from day one I have been ... (326 words)

Religious question: is it wrong we are not married?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a christian woman however i havent been living my life the way a christian should. I have been with my boyfriend about 3.5 years. We have two children together, live together, and love each other. We both want to get married but we can barely afford bands, much less a ... (96 words)

Should I listen to my dad or should I just marry this awesome guy and relax?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi! I'm getting married next month. My beloved fiancé has just found out that he's gonna have to move abroad for the next 7 months and I'm devastated. I've talked about this to my dad (who never supported this marriage in the first place)and he said I'm gonna be miserable. On ... (191 words)

We have feelings for each other but my sister likes him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Recently I've been spending a lot of time with a guy I've been good friends with for years. I was actually dating a close find of his a few years back. I have had a little crush on him for a few weeks now and spent all week with him this past week(i was on vacation). And we ... (190 words)

Friend has ditched us because she has a boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - My friend, let's call her M, has started dating this boy, let's call him D. Since she has been dating D, she has fallen out with her best-friend, A, and has basically ditched me and my other friends to hang out with another girl, just becuase she also has a boyfrien... (117 words)

I spent some of my savings. Do I tell my partner?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age - Spent some of my savings. should i tell him? I am currently saving and in a relationship with someone I have talked about buying a house with, nothing is set in stone but he knows my goals and how much money I have saved. In the past I have had trouble saving and racke... (301 words)

My shy boyfriend hasn't kissed me yet but I want some action!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while now. The problem i'm having is he is very shy and polite, and hasn't even kissed me yet, but i'm very hormonal and am ready for so much more! I am most definitely NOT going to push him into anything he doesn't want to do, but is ... (88 words)

Can my guy friend and I find a balance? He doesn't want to let me down, But is he trying to break up the "best friend" friendship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4539 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 15 and I have two best friends: One is my sister X close and one is a friend Y who is 16. I have been close to him to him (Y) for a year. I am really close to X and she is a year and a half older than me. I know that not all friendships last but in a little over a mo... (316 words)

I'm getting sick of him still getting angry at his ex. Should I continue to endure this uproar on his part?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - In a relationship 5 months both of us are one year out of a marriage, both still going through a split of property etc... My problem is that we ask each other for advice and we give each other advice, but he doesnt use it and just keeps getting angry or upset by his ex, he t... (266 words)

I have feelings for my adoptive 1st cousin

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

17 July 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I've been having feelings for my adopted 1st cousin for about three years and she knows I like her and she acts like she likes me back but I'm not sure wen were near each other we never leave each others side and she sits really close to to me wen ever we sit down closer than ... (109 words)

My first lesbian relationship. Am I missing something, because now she does not seem as interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I got involved with a female/lesbian. It has only been 2 weeks and we just spent our first weekend together and we had intimacy. This happened just last weekend, and now I kind of feel that things are a little different between us; maybe it's just me. I just cant understa... (179 words)

I'm broken hearted over this. Do I let go of showing my love for the son I can contact? Just so he can do well in his studies?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4541 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear friends,im desperately in need of advice and i would be so very grateful if you could help me.. I'm divorced from my first husband seven years ago with three lovely children.. According to our customary law in my country,my ex-husband is entitled to have custody over our... (220 words)

Can anyone suggest how I get over my fear of playing basketball on the court?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so I really love playing basketball. I am the New girl on the team I play on so everyone else has all this experience being on it. My boyfriend (Which i just made my ex but he doesnt know it) is on the guys team and he always tried to make fun of the new things I want to ... (374 words)

Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4533 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age - So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I have. I have met 7 men in ... (528 words)

I am curvy and I want to lose a little weight the right way. Any tips please?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I really really need to lose weight. I have big bones, but i'm curvy. So i'm not hugely out of proportion, but it definately looks like i need to lose some weight Diet is simple for me, cut down, but if you have any day to day diet or meal tips, then please let me know. I ... (184 words)

I'm not wet enough for sex and I'm unsure why

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm having trouble getting wet with my bf. We pretty much have to use lube every time we have sex. We've been together for a year and before him I've never had to do that. I can't say that I get super wet anyway (for instance, i hear that some women get so wet than the guy can ... (200 words)

B/f and I never have in depth conversations anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4541 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been with my boyfriend for over two years, but i now worry if it's working, if he's 'the one' The biggest problem that i feel we have is to do with sex. I have always loved sex, and want it, but recently, it has got 'boring'. We only do it at the weekends, once a... (262 words)

My ex lied and told me he wasn't dating. How do I overcome the bitterness I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

17 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Well it's been three years and my divorce is finally final. I cried like a baby even though we separated for three years and I been still intimate with him. He had a a friend he started dating and I have a child father. Now we talk about getting back together I was helping him ... (268 words)