She doesn't want me to go out with my friends but she doesn't want to be with me. I'm confused

A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Well me and the girlfriend have been on rocky terms for a month now. We have a child and have dated for over 2 years. Recently we broke up, and then when we start to get ok, she doesn't want to be with me and such. I see in her eyes that it's not what she wants because she gets teary eyed when we are together. Then she tells me it is what she wants. I try to talk to her about it and it goes nowhere. So most recently I tried to ignore her. She deleted me from facebook but I have ways to see her posts. After not hearing from me for 2 days she puts a status up that she is confused. I ignore it and go on with my life. The next day she calls me at 11PM needing the stroller from my car. I wasn't home and told her I was out and she couldn't have it at this point. She knew where I was and showed up. While I was walking home intoxicated she saw me and got out of her car. She was starting a fight and said I charged at her, which I didn't. I raised my voice and walked away to avoid an issue. So her and her sister follow and a block away her sister gets out of the car and starts a yelling at me and my friend. I walk the other way and they wait down the street, her mother ends up showing up and I give her the stroller and tell her this is getting out of hand. So That night I tell her that she needs to make up her mind and stop playing games. She doesn't say anything. So in the AM I text her telling her to call me its important. She does. I tell her that this needs to stop, one second she is confused then she is angry. She tells me that the confusion wasn't about me. The day continues and I put flowers outside of her house. She went to the beach with her family. So she kept telling me to just leave her alone she wants nothing to do with me. So I asked if she loved me and she responded that there is no turning back anymore and I was lucky she didn't put a restraining order on me last night. I asked again if she loved me and she just told me to leave her alone. So I told her that her wish was granted and that I do love her, the ball is in her court that it isn't too late. Earlier in the conversations I told her that we needed to talk and get closure if its the end of us. She told me that there is no closure that we are over and that is it. I know if I don't say anything to her it gets her mad and into her head, but if I do it also gets her mad. I love her and I know deep down she loves me too, but she just says things out of anger. I know time will tell if we will be okay. I know her family and friends are telling her that she is better off without me. In the last week she told me that she was taking it out on her friends that we were fighting. One night she wants to be with me and take it slow and the next wants nothing to do with me. She told me that she tried to make us work but its not there anymore, than she is confused. I just don't understand her. It is like a high school relationship. I have told her to stop the drama and either be with me or not. If I go out with my friends she gets mad, but she doesn't want to be with me. I am confused.

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