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writes:Hi! I'm getting married next month. My beloved fiancé has just found out that he's gonna have to move abroad for the next 7 months and I'm devastated. I've talked about this to my dad (who never supported this marriage in the first place)and he said I'm gonna be miserable. On the other hand, I'm very close to my fiancé's family (who lives where we live) and I often spend time with them, having an amazing time. So, I thought I could hang out with them sometimes when he's gone, then there Skype and we can manage to visit each other (about 1hr by plane), then I got my a couple of good friends who live nearby.My dad says I should call off the wedding, because it is likely my fiancé's job is gonna take him away from me in the future as well (true that)... but I've found such great love with him and his family that I think I'd be even more devastated if I called the wedding off. Should I listen to my dad or should I just marry this awesome guy and relax? Thank you!
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (17 July 2012):
 Can your fiance change jobs? That would be the best solution. Marry him and enjoy your life together unless there's a good reason why he's not good enough for you.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 July 2012):
 Talk to your dad about his concerns about your fiancee. He has a reason as to why he doesn't support this relationship and you may as well set his mind at ease. I'd include your fiancée in these discussions with dad.
You're old enough to decide what you want, so proceed if you want to. I guess I would try to understand why the man who loved you before any other man in your life is so concerned about this guy. Maybe he has a point? Maybe he doesn't understand something?
It it just that no man will ever be good enough for his little girl, or is it that there's something he's deeply concerned about?
As for the long distance thing, that's up to you, what you can tolerate and your level of commitment. If you think you can do it, no doubt you can. Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 July 2012):
 if you love him and want to marry him and you two feel you can survive the separations then I say marry him.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 July 2012):
 Marry him and relax...your dad will come around I am sure.
Maybe your dad is afraid he won't get to see you as much as he does now if you move abroad so you might have to make a few adjustments so you keep contact with your dad, other than that, it's your life, if you give this chance of true happiness up, you may regret it for the rest of your life.
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