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writes:I've been having feelings for my adopted 1st cousin for about three years and she knows I like her and she acts like she likes me back but I'm not sure wen were near each other we never leave each others side and she sits really close to to me wen ever we sit down closer than family usaily does and we tell eachother every thing even things our brothers and sisters don't know and I've been really conflicted about it,if you could leave some advice and tips that would be really appreciated and if your just going to say its wrong keep scrolling p.s we are only 13
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reader, Lilman498 +, writes (20 July 2012):
Lilman498 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd if u would read it again legally we are cousins biologically we are no more than strangers
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reader, Lilman498 +, writes (20 July 2012):
Lilman498 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI listen to advice that's given if it is in my best interests or seems helpful
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reader, Lilman498 +, writes (19 July 2012):
Lilman498 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWho says we would break up,and WE ARE NOT TO YOUNG FOR LOVE or else I wouldn't I woundt be looking for advice now would I
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reader, Lilman498 +, writes (18 July 2012):
Lilman498 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are not to young to be in love and who says I have or would have to have future girlfriends and if I do who says I have to tell them
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reader, Lilman498 +, writes (17 July 2012):
Lilman498 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou never to young or old for love,and our parents have tolds us it would be okay but like I said it seems like she likes me back but I'm not sure if she's toying with me or if she means it
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2012): Good for you. I like that "keep scrolling" line. I'm really old, but it sure sounds like young love to me. Of course since she is your adoptive cousin there is absolutley no difficulty about inbreeding. However there is a terrible prejudice against marrying cousins. The prejudice makes no sense if it is applied in your case, but you will have to live with it. The thing is that the prejudice makes very little sense anyway. So here is a reference:An Association between Kinship and Fertility of Human Couples Agnar Helgason et al. SCIENCE vol. 329 no. 5864 February 8, 2008 page 813 – 816You can buy a copy of the article cheap from sciencemag.org. That is the American Assocaition for the advancement of science. They are really high prestige. Of course high prestige people can be wrong; they are all the time. That's why we have wars. Somebody with power gets stupid, often of both sides but always on at least one side.But we aren't talking "ultimate truth" here. We are talking about prejudice. So if you can quote an authority, you have something to say back. When you look over the article, I think you'll see that marrying a cousin, a real biological cousin is no bad thing. Not as bad as marrying somebody unrelated as far as biology goes. One could say that maybe a biological first cousin is a too close, certainly closer than ideal, but that's a quibble. You aren't actually cousins at all, so you can oversimplify it and not lose anything.It's just a tip, like you asked for. If you want more you can look a lot of stuff up on nobabies.net. I wish you both the greatest luck and happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2012): hmmm this is a hard one.!! you are not actually family but you are family..ask her if she does have feelings and talk to your mum or dad, honestly i know your probly thinking oh my gosh i carnt do that but actually they will understand becos your adopted or she is and they will have insight on what yous should do.
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