The love is gone, she's refusing to let me see my children. Do I start divorce proceedings?

A male age 51-59, *edjpd writes:

Hi all - my wife and I have been married 4 years and things have been turbulent from the start - we have two young children aged 2 and 3 1/2.When we got married we moved in to my partners home and this is were a lot of trouble has started from - from day one I have been constantly reminded that it is 'her' house and when we argued I was always asked to 'get out of my house'. On top of that she is very abusive towards me and my family (particularly my mother) and has a superiority complex. We have gone through a cycle of me leaving the house for a while and then returning when the dust has settled. I suppose I have only stuck it this long for the sake of our children as I only want to bring them up in a secure and loving family environment. Things are really bad at present between us and I think we have reached the point of no return - there is no love left and the only thing we have in common are the kids. I am now being prevented from seeing the kids and she is re-engaging in parental alienation. I think now is the time to formally separate as I don't think things can ever be repaired - there has been too much abuse flung out and she has completely alienated herself from my family due to her abuse of them (largely unfounded and aimed at my mother (I think out of jealousy as her own mother died 8 years ago) - she is making it impossible for me to see my kids now - she goes through phases of complete nastyness (usually around time of month)and seems to enjoy a game of brinkmanship - should I go nuclear and start all out legal proceedings or tough it out for a week or so and see if we what develops?

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