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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is my husband just trying to be nice to get me to stop the alimony payments?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - im so confussed my husband of 20 years left me for a much younger girl. old enough to be his daughter. they are now living together and have been for 5 months since i threw him out. im still very much in love with him and would have him back. he told me that he loves me but not ... (210 words)

When I close my eyes I see dots!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - When I close my eyes to fall asleep in bed, I see pixels and pulsating purple blobs all over the place. It's so distracting! What exactly is it and what can I do?... (33 words)

Why would a Guy call a Girl he likes "DEEDEDEEEEEEEE"??????

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F) age 30-35 - I have been raised up in a very strict parents, I did not care to have a boyfriend at all until I was 22 he was 28 I met this guy at work,at first he was so annoying he likes to tickled me until I fell flat on the floor laughing that tears start poring out from my eyes. He ... (328 words)

Yes I'm naive sexually. But am I being used? And why this nickname that I don't like?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

Is rimming weird or fairly common?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

6 July 2012 (?) age 41-50 - Hello fellow Cupid-ers, I have very much enjoyed reading your site, and contributing in my own small way. You all seem like wonderful open-minded people. So to ask a taboo question to as sympathetic an audience as I'm ever likely to get: ever since adolescence I have al... (160 words)

Baby on the way. Student loans. Can you help by telling me how to cope with all this pressure?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello, I'm 24 (almost 25), married, a recent college graduate, and in 9 months... A dad. I just found out today from my wife (who is almost 21 and who is starting her senior year of college in the fall) that she is pregnant. We are not ready for this. I'm kind of excited but ... (201 words)

I want a new relationship but I don't want to leave my fiance

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4549 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my fiance for over 3 years but lately I just feel like I want a new realationship but I don't want to leave him. I love him and have a 1 year old daughter with him I just miss the passion and intensity of a new relationship and wondering if they like you back. ... (131 words)

Husband thinks my high sex drive is pathetic

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 25 yrs old, 5ft 5, 124 lbs.... I am an attractive female, long burgundy hair, and I love sex... It is my absolute favorite thing on this earth. My husband is 5ft 10, brown hair, and about 20 lbs overweight. And he isn't a verry big fan of having sex with me. I am alot of ... (503 words)

When will my mom wake up??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - What is wrong with my mum? Will she ever wake up?:(? My mum has been married to my dad for 21years now and my dad hasn't worked in 6 years. While my mum works 4jobs a day cleaning to pay for the rent, electric, gas, water bills, phones. My dad just stays at home watch... (259 words)

I like 2 girls and don't know what to do

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - hello there i have a problem im 15 male and live in the uk anyways there is 2 girls haha and they both like me i know they do however one of them dont know i know im really good friends with one of them and the other one im good friends with to however i kinda like them both ... (129 words)

I've been dating my man for five months, and now I feel like we're growing apart.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - HEY,,av been dating my man for five months and now i feel like we are growing apart,when he texts me i feel like not replying as in i feel bored but i feel i love him still.but theres this guy i chat with he makes me happy i feel like i feel something for him nowadays my mans ... (116 words)

Do you think this could be more then friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I am 40 years old and coming out of a dead relationship. By chance during an office reorganisation I ended up sitting at a desk next to a girl that I knew a little bit but not well. She is the same age and single, divorced. We sat beside each other for eight months and got on ... (423 words)

Am I a bad sister for feeling like this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my sister are currently working overseas and at the same city. Recently, due to redundancy, she was terminated by her company so she had no choice but to send her kids back to our home country. This is making me depressed actually because I hate to see my niece and ... (511 words)

I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Agony Aunts!... I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same... ??? :S Recently he has told me he loves me, he wants to be with me, and has said that we're getting closer and he's glad it's happening. But this was after a night out which we were bot... (332 words)

I don't know what I am to him, I need advice!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Im am stuck in a relationship that I feel isnt defined by anything. Not that I want definition really though because heck even if someone is your bf they could break up with you any day or be lying to you. However with the man Im "involved" with it would be nice to know tha... (385 words)

Was I wrong for reaching out to someone who hurt me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I was in a LDR for a year and a half. There were ups and down. The man himself was not happy with where things were in his life so he was messing up our relationship without realizing it. To cut the long story short, after realizing he called my bluff of breaking up with him ... (1013 words)

Should I try to get back with him or is it over for good?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4479 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I have been in a relationship with this guy since the past 1.5 years. Our relationship hasn't really been very easy. He cheated on me twice and I forgave him because I love the guy. We have our fights mainly over trust issues but we have managed to work it out. He has been ... (370 words)

Is it too late or can I salvage our relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf and i have had alot of problems over the years due to him making profiles on sex/dating sites as well as social networking sites and craigslist. He also has spoken sexually with women on the net. He is finally shaping up, but im starting to feel as if ive given up. My ... (157 words)

Is anything, of what this friend of my husband told me, true?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - When I started dating my boyfriend (now husband) I talk to his best friend (male) about these girls that always calls him seeking advice and talk, he explained to me how he promised himself to never trust a woman with guy friends. I asked him why and this is what he answered ... (193 words)

Using Olive Oil to unclog a stuffy ear, does anyone know of this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys this question is health related but i need opinions bad and i dont know where else to ask. I heard that a few warm drops of olive oil will unclog a stuffy ear afer a couple days is this true? Also if it turns out its just an ear infection would the olive oil make ... (97 words)

I am a morning person, who will be working a part time overnight job. How can I cope with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not really sure where to post this question online but I've been around this site plenty, so I figured you guys can help. It's mainly health and sleeping pattern related. It could indirectly be related to how it will effect my relationships with my friends, family, and ... (257 words)

Fathers in the delivery room: who should have the final say?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4549 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I had an interesting conversation with my boyfriend earlier about fathers in the delivery room. I'd like to find out what others make of the issue! My boyfriend said he'd rather not be in present, but if the mother wanted him there he'd comply. I'm of the opinion that the... (148 words)

If I stay, I'll lose my boyfriend. If I go, I risk losing my relationship with my father. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, My boyfriend recently got offered a job in another part of the country, I really want to go with him as he said that he can financially support me till I get a job, and we don't want to lose our relationship! Although we started off long distance, he moved in around ... (131 words)

How do I handle my boyfriend's drunk father?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm living with my boyfriend for the summer because i wanted to be closer to him. His dad is an alcoholic, he drinks a 30 pack a night and on the weekends its double that, and always gets drunk, and when hes drunk, he is not the best person to be around. One night he was ... (215 words)

I was stood up. Should I call him out on it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been/was in love with a guy for a year now. This is how it played out: - started casually talking as classmates who go to the same college. We immediately clicked and talked every day, for hours- he was extremely charming, intelligent, educated, charismatic. Onl... (693 words)

How can I resist such an unethical temptation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I resist such an unethical temptation? I had the hots for this teacher at my college for quite a while, but did not act on it. My crush had began to wear off, when I got told from a senior the strong advances he had made on her, despite him being married and her ... (99 words)

I've fallen for my lecturer, but I'm in a relationship. Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have a terrible problem. I am a 28 year old in a relationship we are planning to get married. I was very happy with my life until I went back to college as a mature student..now BOOM! I think I have fallen for my lecturer..or at least I am lusting after him pretty bad at ... (304 words)

How can I leave someone who's too attached to let me go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, I have a small problem with a guy. We both like each other but we are a little bit long distance. I said since the start "I'm not interested in a relationship " he says he knows ad that he wot let me go and is even willing to leave his college to move to my st... (213 words)

Dating? not yet, though I am so proud I lost so much weight.. But how do I deal with insecurity re scars after surgery and dating, after weight loss?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - The last couple years was a life changing experience for me. I lost more than a hundred lbs of weight, leaving me with lots of hanging skin but only in the stomach and thigh area to the point that I couldn't wear a swim suit. It was a huge decision for me, but with great s... (582 words)

How broke is too broke in a relationship?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have asked twice before. I still didn't break up with my long distance boyfriend in spite of aunts and uncles telling me so. Some aunts told me his insecurity would cause problems. One uncle said this is a fantasy relationship. My mom told me to give him one more chance ... (619 words)

Do I move with my boyfriend? My parents are against it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

My fiance is insecure about receiving oral sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, my question is regards to performing oral sex on my fiance. In most cases she does not want me to go down on her. She has assured me that she enjoys it when she does let me go down on her, just that most of the time she feels insecure about her body and therefore is not ... (270 words)

My father doesn't like my boyfriend. Should I tell him we're getting married? Or wait till afterwards?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi! I'm getting married to the love of my life in a couple of months. I lost my mom a year ago and my father is... well, he's never been there for me and he is always pretty scary and judgmental. I still love him, in a way, you know, he's still my dad, but I'm aware that I will ... (222 words)

How do I explain our breakup without saying I'm gay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I just told my boyfriend of several years that I'm likely a lesbian. He is a great guy, honestly. He seemed to take it well - we broke it off but agreed to be friends. I still feel really guilty for doing it. I mean, I still love him as a person. I'm just not interested ... (141 words)

I'm not seeing any love and she's putting me through hell

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age - I am a 51 white male and I met a 51 black female on a sex site. We hit off great and with in 3 months we had fallen in love and were almost inseparable during that time. She had a sales job set up before we met that was to last 6 months. I live in Tx and her job is in Fl. She ... (345 words)

He says he loves me but things aren't the way they used to be

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I was in a relationship with a guy who I was crazy in love with and so was he about me and suddenly he started acting weird not calling me as often as he does and not coming to see. He even said he knows he is withdrawn but won't tell me why but insists he loves in his text and ... (83 words)

Havent heard from my guy for a week

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been seeing this guy for 5 months.He had been a lot more smitten than before last month.He spent almost every night at my place.However,we had a fight over some stupid things he did when he was drunk.Our last talk was on the phone,he went like "whatever,I will call you ... (95 words)

I'm shy but I'm in love with him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Well the story is like i am a girl and im in love with this guy who moved to my neighbourhood recently. I once talked to him one day whilst he was telling me about how his ex treated him and unappreciative she was. I felt sorry for him and i also realised he is a good person, ... (87 words)

He's flirting with me yet telling me about his problems with a girl. Does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy and his best mate at a concert last year that a mutual friend was performing in and we hit it off straight away. It was really spooky because I knew his family already so we had lots to talk about. He invited my best friend and I (who was also at the gig) on a... (294 words)

Am I just too hot to handle?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Well there seems to be some patern with me and women that i have always been aware of, it seems that women do not like to talk to me about anything we are going out, why is this? I mean it's wierd because i talk to my guy friends about there relationships and it seems that when ... (408 words)

We have a connection, but run out of topics to discuss. How do we learn to communicate with soul searching conversations?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - So I've got my girlfriend, whom I'll have been dating 5 months on the 10th. I really really want to have a real relationship with substance and communication and love. She desires the same. From an objective standpoint, we're really good together. In fact, one of my close fem... (235 words)

I said no to going further. But am I still a virgin, based on what happened?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so there's this military guy i met with. I just wanted someone to date.. we went out to dinner. i dropped him off to on base i get out the car we made out he was groping me and hugging me tight. Then we meet up again the next day ( i am a virgin) i went to his place i g... (157 words)

Is this a good idea to surprise my BF in this way, in another room, while the housewarming is in progress?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My new housemate and I are having a housewarming this weekend and obviously the guy I am seeing will be there. My guy loves receiving oral sex and I love giving it but I have never done it without him first asking. I want to surprise him at the party by getting him away fro... (110 words)

I give, he takes. My business is in debt, he refuses to get a job. Does he love me? Should I tell him to move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age - Hi My financee works for a company I set up 3 years ago. The business is going poorly.I started with my own money, and it is in my name, as he has no money of his own. It has a overdraft of a few thousands of dollars now and no income coming in. I have been working myself... (197 words)

I work with her, she has a GF and she's not my type. So how can I get over my Crushing for this girl?.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok so, I'm tired of analyzing this situation myself so I am reaching out for advice. I started a new position about 6 months ago and there is this girl at work who I knew was a lesbian but seemed disinterested in getting to know me, so I never bothered introducing myse... (443 words)

She hurt me a lot and after all the stress she brought me, I think I forgot to appreciate the good times. Should I try to be friends again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having some inner conflicts with my mind. Ever since about 5th or 6th grade, I had a close friend. We got closer as we progressed through high school, and suddenly I realized I had a best friend. We would talk for hours on the phone, have fun conversations, we were pra... (708 words)

How can I finish this relationship with my employer? I want to, but don't know how to get the courage

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i got a job as a househelp i wanted to accumulate cash so i could continue with my studies,but things didnt turn the way i expected my boss started approaching me,because his wife has mental problems. Within a month i gave in it has been five months now,now i want to end this... (77 words)

How can a gay guy feel comfortable around straight guys?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a gay male that acts masculine. Not everyone knows I'm gay but I'm afraid to be around other guys. I feel much better being around women. When I get around guys I feel like I don't fit in. I fill like a alien. I don't act feminine at all but yet I feel like I don't fit in ... (201 words)

Can someone please define what typifies a bi-sexual girl? I just don't know if I am bisexual

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4549 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so I'm 20 years old and I'm in need of help in defining if bisexual, I've been thinking about this for a while now I'm in a 4year relationship with my bf, I've never been with a women in my life but, I get turned on mor by like women than men (porn), or if I see women wi... (185 words)

How can I learn to be myself around others?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I don't know how to be myself when I'm around other people. I always get scared that I may be talked about and wouldn't fit in. I tell myself to be myself but when I get around people I get nervous and chicken out because I'll think I'm being talked about and then I'll get to ... (81 words)

How can we restore the love to our eight year relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Long story short, I been in a on and off relationship for 8 years. We started dating when we were 16 years old. We were on and off after 3 years and she slept with 5 guys since then and I slept with 1 girl. Even when we broke up, we would still have crazy sex. We always had our ... (258 words)

I Really need help asking a girl out!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm in college and there is this girl in my class who caught my attention from the moment I saw her. I can talk with a girl no problem if I know her personally but I am very shy when it comes to meeting new people, especially girls(whether I'm interested in them or not, that's ... (227 words)

My relationship with my husband changed after I had a baby, I need some advise on how to fix this.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I had a great relationship with my hubby, had great sex all the time talk hug, kiss, watch movies, when out. I got pregnant had a baby and everything change we live together he says he loves me but he avoids talking to me, we don't go out, the sex is once every two weeks, I ... (99 words)

What do you do if you feel you are not in love with your wife anymore?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - What do you do if you feel you are not in love with your wife anymore? We have 3 children together. They are not toddlers. We have debt. Physically not that attracted to her anymore and seem to just be going through the motions. I don't want to kiss her anymore. We don... (241 words)

He blew up at me, and now he's ignoring me! Did I get played?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - a wealthy farmer in my small town who is accused of being a player chased me 4 a long time and sent txts back and 4th for month and half. i kept turnin him down cuz of his rep and we have gotten into little disputes b4 ever going out. he kept in pursuit and i finally ... (352 words)

I'm about to be a freshmen in high school, how do I talk to guys?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Okayy so im about to be a freshman in high school and how do i talk to guys like im the shyest person you could ever met but if im with my bffs im fine and i love to talk and play ago out i Do Talk to sum bout not alot im just wondering how can i get guys to talk to me like ... (114 words)

I'm not sure I love my husband, or if he loves me. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4551 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a 33 years old woman - successful career with 2 beautiful kids. my problem is that i don;t think i love my husband or he loves me. My husband loves to spend time with my kids but not with me, i know he is not having an affair and whenever i share that concern to him he ... (192 words)

What are some of your ideas/experiences with having sex outdoors?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend are in a extremely happy relationship. We have been together for 5 years and I am planning to spend the rest of my life with him (cheesy I know!) We have had sex before however we want to know places outside were we could do it. For various reasons my ... (215 words)

Our past is making me paranoid! How can I deal with this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4549 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years now. We first got together when I was 14 and he was 15 and things were pretty good for the first year of our relationship. During my GCSE's our relationship struggled as I was so focused on passing them I didn't make much effort f... (578 words)

My girlfriend and I want to adopt, but friends and family are against gays' raising children. Advise please?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Im a gay woman who is in a very healthy relationship of 3 years and recently I have became really broody and would like to adopt in the near future with my girlfriend, we have discussed children before and she also would like to have them one day but a lot of my friend... (94 words)

He says he isn't cheating, and I want to believe him, but I don't. What do you think?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

6 July 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years, we have always been happy until recently... i discovered a text on his phone from a girl saying "hey are you missing me, it was good with drinks the other night, u wanna meet wednesday, wat you doing tonight? xxxxx" It said oth... (546 words)