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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I can't get over my former teacher. How do I move forward?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am having immense trouble getting over a former teacher of mine; it has been 1.5 years since we last spoke. I know I should have been over this a long time ago, but I guess I am just weak, and I am never able to find anybody who can make me happy as she did. We were not toge... (205 words)

Why did my ex say all that he did?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I bumped into my ex in a pub yesterday. He told me that he had seen me in another pub earlier that day, as he was walking past the pub at the time, but when he went in that pub later on, i had left. I was surprised that he noticed that i had left. Do you think it's a ... (426 words)

What's an emotional affair? Am I having one?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi! I'm a single guy. And I was told that I'm having an affair with a married woman. It's not what you think were NOT sleeping together. We dated when we were younger, we lost contact after high school and have reunited about a year ago. A female friend of mine informed me that ... (136 words)

Why can't I ejaculate when I'm with girls?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi all, Just a quick question that has been bothering me for some time now. Ive slept with around 12 girls, mixture or sober and drunken experiences as you would expect, but only one of these girls has ever been able to make me ejaculate. Has anybody ever had a similar ... (103 words)

My daughter's bizarre behavior has the whole family concerned. What should we do? Stage an intervention? Get her counselling?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My 19-year-old daughter has recently started acting bizarrely and, to be honest, I don't know why. I highly doubt it's drugs, as we live in a fairly middleclass area and everyone knows everyone else. She's started binding her breasts down (I found breast binders in her room lef... (207 words)

I thought it all went great....then why hasn't he called?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a guy n have him my number. He called talked on the phone daily. We finally got up yesterday. For 6 hrs. He told me he was having a great time. He even came inside for a drink. We kissed he ttotally was liking our make out. He hasnt called n its 600 pm the next day. Am so ... (83 words)

Why did she lead me on when she was in a long term relationship??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Not to sure why I am writing this, I think I know the answer, but maybe this will make me feel a bit better? A young Lady in my work environment seemed to try to get my attention by turning up at certain times, not going into much detail, e.g. when I came back from my hols she... (557 words)

Am I responsible for my B/f sleeping around? Did I drive him to do it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 24 and my boyfriend is also 24. We have been together for four years on and off after meeting while working in the same bar. I was at uni at the time and after i became pregnant, i left my final year with the hope of going back to university when our son went to school. I ... (318 words)

Something feels off - should I trust him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hi, everyone, just sumthing im worried about but in a way not that worried... about just over to yrs ago i met a guy off plenty of fish the dating website, and kinda just hit it off from texting and ringing anyway last early december we finally met and we got on so well, a... (486 words)

How can I get my girlfriend to be more accepting of my cannabis use? She's gone from being a nice loving woman to a total nag!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am 28 and have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. I recently made new friends and they have introduced me to smoking cannabis again. This is something I have not done since I was about 18. My girlfriend hates it though and has gone from a nice loving woman to a total nag. ... (163 words)

Is this a trust issue for me? Or should I just accept and trust that he is just friends with her??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship with a guy who lives an hour away for almost 4 months now..and for the last month or so we have been getting in fights every week. sometimes a couple times a week. The main problem is that I have had trust issues from the very beginning, a... (365 words)

What can I do about my hairy butt? Because I'm worried my Gf will be grossed out by it.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My gf wants to do things to my butt. but i am really conscious because its hairy. What do i do , I dont want to stop her from doing it because it'll be embarassing, but it will be even more embarassing if she gets grossed out when she actually sees it . Is there anyway I ... (85 words)

My boyfriend was never really there for me, he lied to me and gave me reasons to doubt him and now I think I'm in love with his friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Am 20 and my boyfriend is 26. We've been together for 1 year. He was my first sexually. sure we do have our issues but we make sure its resolved by the end of the day. just about 3 months in the relationship, he confessed that he does have a 4 year old son back in his country ... (734 words)

Anxious about first time sex with my B/f. Any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my bf are talking about having sex, we discussed it and I want to be the 'passive' one of the two, if you get me, but I have seen him naked and I am worried because he is really big! I haven't had sex before and he said it hurts the first time anyway, but nevertheless I ... (78 words)

If he knows I love my partner and my child then why did my ex NOW reveal that he loves me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i was seein a guy for a few weeks and started to fall for him, when things started to get serious he backed out. We then had a sexual relationship on and off for the best part of a year then i moved on and found my current boyfriend whom ive been with for 3 years. My ex and ... (578 words)

He plans to leave me and our son.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know what to do, my boyfriend has come home from work today and told me that he is moving back to his home city without me and his son Fastforward we have been through a lot he cheated I took him back and we had our son he moved here to be with us but he said he is un... (141 words)

I really don't want to let this guy get away ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this boy a few months ago and I've had a huge crush on him for a while. His girlfriend broke up with him around then too so he's not looking for a serious relationship. Anyway, we've hooked up twice so far (we kissed a lot and slept together but nothing happened past ... (127 words)

What would be the perfect Christmas gift for her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - hey ladies, if i were your boyfriend and were to spend christmas together what would you like to receive as a gift within a 350 dls budget? a gadget? jewlery? i want to give her something nice, to cause a good impression and she would remember me. she is sweet and romantic. any ... (58 words)

Weed seems more important to him than our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of 3 years has started smoking weed regularly and I hate it. He has become secretive, lazy and snappy with me since he started, and only seems interested in getting stoned these days. I have told him I don't like it (I have my own reasons for this which he knows ... (244 words)

She accused me of cheating, but she's on a dating site?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I have had to constantly re-assure my girlfriend since day one. I have put up with allegations that I am cheating or will end up cheating on her. I am often accused of finding others attractive when we are out. Despite this, I have tried to understand and try to find out what ... (114 words)

Over my head or out of my league?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Here's my question: Is it ever appropriate between a first and second date (which I asked for) to ask the other person if they've met someone new? She has already rescheduled the second date from a Saturday night to a Tuesday night, and her justification rang true enough. ... (168 words)

Is he genuine? Every time he's 'going to leave her' something comes up. How do get more strength to cope with him?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - First of all I know im an idiot for getting myself in this situation and I do regret it more than you could know which is why I could do with some advice. I had feelings for a guy that I've known for a year and stupidly let him kiss me a few months ago even though I know he... (354 words)

I'm confused about how abrupt he became after sex. What could be his problem?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone, I have been feeling incredibly confused and feel that I need some advice before I can let this go.. Im 29 and the guy in question is 26.. we dated for only 3 weeks. He is quite an introvert and definitely not the player type. The dates went great, we got on... (327 words)

My bf wants pics of me should I send them?

This question has 35 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind of slag? Should I press ... (80 words)

The problem is I don't think my teacher has feelings for me. But I have a BIG crush on him. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I am a 17yr old girl,single.I think I love my tution teacher who is 7yrs elder than me and is single.He is teaching me since 2yrs.He got a hint 2yrs back that I had a crush on him.But none of us took it seriously.But as days are passing by and I am knowing him gradually am ... (138 words)

Worried because my hookup count is building up...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all, It's been more than half a year since I got out of my first and only relationship that lasted a good 1.5 years. And since the end of that relationship, I've had a good handful of drunken hookups. I've had three one night stands already and I am starting to real... (207 words)

Do most couples start having sex at 18?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - When couples turn 18 in highschool do they usually have sex? whether they already were or start to. ... (18 words)

Am I setting myself up for being cheated on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear aunts and uncles, I've been in a relationship for almost two years now. And last night my boyfriend decided to open up and tell me I'm his 19th girlfriend. With his last girlfriend he said it wasn't working out so he cheated on her with a woman of a different race (... (197 words)

Office Romance, No Trust on Lover

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am married and in relationship with a married lover (we love each other) since before she got married a year back. After her marriage we have had numerous problems and now situation is that I don't trust her anymore due to she took me too much for granted and lied several ... (237 words)

I got pushed and want to know..if there could be any damage to my unborn baby?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I was just wondering if any damage would be done to my baby. Im 31 weeks pregnant and i got pushed and hit my back. my whole body is sore and my baby's movement has decreased im scared and worried i need help. ... (43 words)

Girlfriend pressured me to throw out all things from my past but she lied and didn't do the same!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - After 6 months I bowed to constant pressure and threw away all my old photos, holiday photos the lot (except the ones of my son). My girlfriend was adamant that they belonged in the past, was nothing to do with "us" and told me she had thrown all hers out because her life only ... (136 words)

Am I just a game for him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I love a man who have 31 years old,I only have 20.We meet in a mmo game and I begine to love him.I love him more than my life.At begine was wonderfull,he show he's love.he bip me when I was offline,we stay alot at time together,he was jelous but he was lovely,he wanted to be ... (135 words)

How do you get a bartender's attention and have them ask you out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I’m almost 25 and yet to really date anyone. I live very strick and traditional asian family. Plus til recently I’ve never really always the enjoy the single life. I notice when im out the pub with best friends, to listen to the local band, somehow unintentionally check out one ... (270 words)

I thought a couple of hours in a hotel would be ok, he wants more. Am I wrong for feeling silly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F) age 41-50 - Iv been seeing this man for a while now it's become sexual,but because we are both divorced with young children we dont have sex in our houses because we are not comfortable with that just yet.Anyway I suggested to my boyfriend that we should book up a room because im getting ... (165 words)

I know I'm going to break up with him. But am I right to wait until after Christmas? Should I return his Christmas presents after we break up?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Something has snapped in me this week and I have finally decided, after a lot of heartache, that I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. He is no longer making any effort with me, and despite me bringing it up several times and him promising to do better, he never... (347 words)

Am I being used? I want more than to just be his FWB

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So there's this guy I've known since high school. We are the same age. Both came out of really bad relationships. We are friends. I went over to his house one day we ended up doing things. Then afterwards, he says "I'm not sure what this means to you, but its just a coupl... (324 words)

Is it best to just forget this guy? I know I deserve better

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I am legally separated from my husband and will be going to be divorced soon. I have made plenty of friends online for the last 3 years. One of them, a guy and I have become quite close. We have been chatting on skype for 2 weeks. There was a lot of chemistry between us... (1684 words)

How can I ask my girlfriend to have anal sex with me?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, i need some advice from the ladies. I have a wonderful girlfriend and we love each other very much. I love her to bits and she is super hot. I would like to have anal sex with her, i noticed that when i touch her, or lick her there, it arouses her very much. I want to ... (142 words)

Why is she like this? What is wrong with my sister?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all well I have something on my mind and heart it's my sister we are always at each other's throats . But it's not me I don't argue with her I just let her talk to a certain extent. The problem is my mom is sick and she made me her Power of Attorney. My sister wants m... (199 words)

Do you think moving in together without an engagement is a good idea?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I wanted to get your take on being engaged before moving in together. I've been with my significant other (SO) for almost 4 years. I am 24, just finishing up my last year of University. He is 28, finished college two years ago and is still struggling to find a job. We both ... (595 words)

Is it that he is no longer attracted to me the way he used to be? I find it very hurtful.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years .. Sometimes the way he looks at me makes me feel like he isn't attracted to me anymore .. I feel that way because I have noticed him looking at a few females and he really doesn't look at me like that Please hel... (72 words)

Do I wait? hope? or just break up with her? Because I think she may have feelings for another guy who reminds her of her ex.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm in college. Over the summer I was at home and started talking to this girl online, who also lives in the area. We had common friends and began talking for hours every night. I had very strong feelings for her but she was reluctant because for the past two years, she w... (397 words)

Why would a guy just disappear? What did I do to make him lose interest when he never even got to know me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy at a bar a few weekends ago and we ended up making out. I went back to his place but I told him I didn't want to have sex (I'm not opposed to one night stands but I had my period and I don't like having sex until it's over). He was fine with that and we just made ... (392 words)

Despite my huge weight loss I have a legacy of low self esteem and shyness due to how things used to be. How can I overcome this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F) age 36-40 - i have had low self esteem my whole life... recently i lost 40lbs (through sports and good eating habits) and feel like people act differently to me ("nicer" basically). before, i used to feel invisible... usually, nobody would ever pay attention to me... i felt like i had ... (422 words)

My B/f snores at night and I cant sleep!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Does anyone have any advice for my situation? I have been with my boyfriend only a few months. I am 23 he is 27.His an amazing guy and we get along like a house on fire. My problem is, he snores at night and i cant sleep! His a bit overweight and is working on it, I stayed ... (184 words)

Why is this girl suddenly acting so weird around me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - This girl is someone from my class which I now know for 2 months(I am 20 and she is 18 btw). In the beginning there wasn't much going on, but when we met each other we had some nice conversations and she even was a bit more okay around me. Then we haven't seen each other fo... (452 words)

In the beginning he would not listen to my 'no'. But now I think he's cheating and telling lies. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4365 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend since High School, we broke up and became friends during my last two years of High School so we started dating other people. When i started my first year in college he was not going to school so he would come to my school and hang with me when i ... (571 words)

What can you suggest? I'm faithful always, but I feel like she holding my sex life hostage.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm 29 and my girlfriend is 27. We've been together for 5 years, lived together for 4. Our relationship is and has been going well in most respects. We rarely argue and suit each other nicely. Unfortunately we have fairly different sex drives (mine being higher) and si... (513 words)

I'm worried for my sister who's involved with a known cheater.Can cheaters ever change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Can cheaters really change? I ask because my sister has started going out with a guy I know from uni who has cheated on all of his past girlfriends and I am a bit worried. He was always quite open about his cheating with his friends (they were all cheats and would all back each ... (278 words)

Scared I'll miss him if we break-up. But I feel neglected and second best. Any advice on how to manage this situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I think I should leave my boyfriend of 3 years but I'm scared to because I know I'm going to miss him so much. Can anyone give me some advice on whether this is normal or if it means I shouldn't do it? Here is some background on the reasons I have been thinking this. Firs... (855 words)

She's a twin. How can I start up a conversation with her? Seeing as we don't have any classes together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - 21-year old community college student here. There's this girl I really like who I see around every so often and I think she's really pretty. Only problem is I don't have any classes with her or really know her, her identical twin sister was in one of my classes a few seme... (178 words)

I have some regrets about my LDR. I think I give too much. How can I overcome these feelings?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4358 days ago

9 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Im in a ldr with a wonderful girl and we love each other very much. When i met her i was pursuing my dream job, having job interviews etc. When things got serious and we became exclusive she had to go back to her country to complete school and get her degree, when she complet... (461 words)