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writes: Iv been seeing this man for a while now it's become sexual,but because we are both divorced with young children we dont have sex in our houses because we are not comfortable with that just yet.Anyway I suggested to my boyfriend that we should book up a room because im getting fed up just kissing and heavy petting in his car.I did book a room for last week and he seemed all for it but cancelled it the day before saying his son was ill so couldn't see me.So I suggested this week but he said that he can only see me for a couple of hours because of work and that it wouldn't be worth booking up a room but he still wants to see me.I thought a couple of hours in a hotel would be ok but he doesn't think so...he'd rather have more hours.Am I being too silly here?...or is he right?
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (9 December 2012):
I think he feels like he really likes you and having sex in a room for a couple of hours makes it seem like a meaningless casual encounter and not a wonderful first time between you both. to me it would feel like Im hiring a prostitute for an hour or so and thats not how he feels about you.I think you need to wait and commit to a proper weekend at a hotel or each others houses....The best part of getting together is the sexual tension between you both and the longer that goes on for it will override your feelings around the houses you both are in.Hope everything goes well....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2012): Sounds like he is too tight to pay for a room.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2012): The two of you are both right. You feel like any amount of time is better than no time. He feels like its a waste of money to go to a hotel for two hours. He wants to get his moneys worth. It's one of these type of situations that there is no right nor wrong just compromise!
The two of you discuss it and come up with a happy medium. Best of luck of to you!
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