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writes:I don't know what to do, my boyfriend has come home from work today and told me that he is moving back to his home city without me and his sonFastforward we have been through a lot he cheated I took him back and we had our son he moved here to be with us but he said he is unhappy in his jobHe didnt even consider taking me or our little boy I don't know what I have done wrong he said he doesn't want talk about it anymore and he will be moving out after the newyear.I'm completely heartbroken I think I'm looking for reassurance more than anything. He's only been here for 2 months and in his new job for 5 days...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012): I just feel if I kik him out ill be going to his level, my family have told him to ask him to leave.
It's defo over with the girl he was cheating on me with she has her own family now and lives in a different city it was while we were all at university together.
I know I owe him nothing and he's showing me no loyalty but I just can't ring myself round to doing it
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012): Guilty, may I ask Why?You have to think of your future and your child's .. I know you want this to work out but I would assume that if he's leaving to go home after the new year he has already put his notice in at his place of employment ..Why, should you get stepped on? Do you really believe that who he cheated with is over? As from what you have written he is clearly not willing to give his family unit a chance, and I have to agree with all the other aunts posts.. Don't let him use you as a door mat..Pack his stuff, I know I would and tell him there the door what's your hurry..Take a deep breath and get support from your mum and dad sweetie as you'll need it, it will be tough but you'll get,through this .. Stand tall you aren't At fault don't feel guilty about putting him out.. He doesn't at leaving you and his child high and dry after the new year..Take care, keep us posted.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 December 2012):
 He gave his new job 5 days? oy.
He so does not want to be with you and your son. He's not even trying.
it's really NOT about you but rather about his lack of maturity and commitment to adult things in life.
I agree with Aunty BimBim, pack him up now and send him on his way home to mommy now. no need to stretch out the pain of the inevitable ending.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012): I'd feel guilty kicking him out
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reader, fishdish +, writes (10 December 2012):
 SERIOUSLY????! You've been taking care of your son for how many months and he can't make ONE WEEK at a new job? Terrible man, nice early christmas present. Consider moving in with family to reestablish some stability and social support in your life. I second the child support idea. Please take care.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 December 2012):
 This is not about you or your son, this is about him being a miserable person. I doubt you did anything "wrong". He is the one who can't HACK it. Let him go.
Time to find a way to make it work as a single mom.
And don't forget that he NEEDS to pay child maintenance.
**hugs**
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reader, anonymus2012  +, writes (10 December 2012):
aunty bim bim is right. somebody who has cheated on you doesnt deserve you. you can do better. kick his ass out of the house today, he doesnt deserve to be around you not even for one more minute.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (10 December 2012):
 Sweetheart, don't wait for the new year, pack his stuff up and tell him if he has no time nor inclination to discuss the issue, and if he is determined to go, the sooner he goes the better. Close the door firmly behind him.
Find somebody who you can have a good howl at, get Christmas out of the way and start planning your future, research online, decide if you need to go back to school, or if you can get some part time work, find a good child care provider and set your feet on the path to a decent future for you and your child.
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