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writes:Hi all well I have something on my mind and heart it's my sister we are always at each other's throats .But it's not me I don't argue with her I just let her talk to a certain extent.The problem is my mom is sick and she made me her Power of Attorney. My sister wants mom to stay with her but my mom said no, she wants to be with me, so now my sister and I argue everyday or every other day .Like tonight I picked up my phone and found it was still open. So I over heard her talking about me to her boyfriend. Then she realized the phone was on because I cursed her out and hung the phone up.She talks about me to her friends and I can tell because the way they look at me, but I just try to ignore her .What is wrong with my sister?She talks behind my mom's back and smiles in her face like its nothing but I don't want to hurt her so what can I do to avoid this trash. Help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012): I gp through the same thing with my 4 brothers, one more than the others to the point that he tells me blantantly to my face that I am nothing! I have come to realise that my brothers feel I am chosen over them as I am looking after our mother, and they feel that she favor's me, which she does and I can see it is not fair on them it hurts them. It is also not fair on me as she relies far more on me than she does on anyone else. The fact is that they do not have the courage to to lay the blame with the person who has made the decision to be that way, which is our mother, she has decided to be that way, it was not my choice. I understand my brother feels like he is nothing in comparrison to me, which is rediculous because he is loved by my mother, it is a different way though. I get through it by being cordial with him when I have to be, but I do not go out of my way with him. I know it hurts, it does but their is nothing you can do about it, just do what is riht for you and your mum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2012): first and most of all I'm sorry that your sister argues with you, talks about you behind your back to her friends and boyfriend, however you should be able to understand her frustration. Your mom favours you, this is not fair and it really hurts. I can understand where your sister is coming from. I'm going through the same situation. My mom has 5 children, 4 girls and 1 boy. I am the youngest girl, he is the baby and she favours him and favours one sister, the one older than me, they are not better than me and non of them is as helpful, as caring, as loving and as generous as me, but that is my mother, and this how she has been as long as I can remember. She does not value me but what can I do, I do my part as a good daughter, I check in on her everyday, I take her out for dinner and I accept her neglect and control. She never calls me to check on me, but I do pass by her place and call her everyday and sometimes she will promise to call me back and then she never does. I was and am always forgotten. Mind you if I call her one day later than usual she won't like it and she will ask about the reason !! Do your part as a good daughter and a good sister. If your sister starts a fight, do not fight back. If she is at your place to see your mom just leave them spend some time together. I hope this helps. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2012): Thanks for the feedback I don't throw what my mom has done in her face she just can't accept it so this is way we stay in to it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 December 2012):
 The situation, as I understand it... is that your Mom lives with you... and you have her Power of Attorney... and you and your Sister don't get along....
What's the question? Do you need lessons in how to ignore your Sister? Be polite and cordial... support her visits to see your Mom... and/or your Mom's going to visit her.... and - beyond that - steer clear of Sis.....
Good luck....
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 December 2012):
 You sister feels as though you have been chosen over her (and you have, but that was your mother's choice to make and I am sure she had very good reasons for doing so).
If you are caring for your mother in your home, or you live in hers, there is not much you can do about your sister's attitude.
All you can do is the best for your mother, and try not to rub the fact you have been trusted as power of attorney and not your sister in her face.
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