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Archived questions from: 4 December, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can I keep from having certain natural "reactions" while sleeping in the same bed with a really cute guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi all! I've started seeing this really amazing guy. We've been out for a few weeks now and he's invited me to spend the night at his place, in his bed. We have both agreed that nothing is going to happe, that we are just going to cuddle and kiss. My question is.. what should I ... (91 words)

How soon after a missed period should you take a pregnancy test?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - How long would you wait after a missed period to take a pregnancy test? I am not irregular, since I have started tracking my period 5 months ago it was always the same time 30 days apart. Yet I was supposed to start on Monday and still no period... I'm not on birth control. We ... (176 words)

My soon to be sister in law used to be my friend but now she hates me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I was friends with this girl for ages and if i do not talk to her she doesn't communicate with me, 3 yrs ago i ddn't speak to her for a year because i was the only one visiting her and doing most work so i left her we only reunited on this party but am not someone who holds ... (658 words)

Would I be better off without him? He makes me feel like shit much of the time.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, after a very shaky beginning of being on/off for about 6 months before that. I've never felt this way about anyone before, but I've also never felt so bad about myself since I started liking him. It's as if everything he does has ... (226 words)

Can men and women be friends without sex getting in the way.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My best friend is a guy, we known each other for 6 years and got each other through so many hard times and good times of course. About 6 months in to known each other we got drunk and had sex. In the mornin i told him i didnt want it to happen again and it just didnt feel right ... (256 words)

My ex contacted me and wants to communicate again. I feel guilty for refusing her request, advice?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - My ex has recently contacted me after no contact for six years. We had been together for 18 years and she left me for another man. I have found out that she got married and now has separated from the guy she left me for. The split really hurt me. She has mailed asking if... (185 words)

I feel so stupid for falling in love with someone who doesn't feel the same

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I hate myself for falling in love with this guy. He told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship from the beginning. I was ok I thought it would be ok because he wasn't my type. Low and behold I fell for him hard. Now he makes excuses not to hang out with me because he ... (149 words)

If I ask someone if they are dating and the response is "I won't answer that." What does it mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I ask my ex girlfriend if she is dating someone and her answer was "I'm not going to answer that", what does she mean?... (24 words)

My girlfriend got drunk and ended up falling asleep on the couch of a male friend. She says nothing happened. I don't know what to do.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend of 6 months went to some bars last night with her best friend and some other friends and I didn't go as I had a law exam today. She messaged me at about 10pm and said she was ok and told her I was going to bed. I woke up and shed sent me a message to say s... (265 words)

Meeting up with my LDR at the airport tomorrow and I'm nervous!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4395 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi dear aunts/uncles! I am on a LDR for a couple of months with someone I used to know when I was younger just as friends, but we parted ways. (we knew each other personally) We will "meet" tomorrow on an airport (we both flew in to a "middle ground" ) He says th... (173 words)

I'm having a few weird issues with my boyfriend, and they are making me feel boring to him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I had a really rocky start, he constantly said there would be no relationship etc, but then finally asked me out 2 weeks ago, it's been really awesome, but since going out with him, I've noticed some weird things that are starting to upset me - 1. He needs to... (390 words)

Just a question: how long would you wait after sex before breaking up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Just a question: how long would you wait after sex before breaking up? I imagine, having sex and then breaking up with someone on the same day would be unacceptable. So do you guys or girls have any set rules? Do you wait a certain time length after sex before ending ... (144 words)

My relationship is a complete mess and I don't know what to do.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Someone please try to advise me. I cannot believe the awful situation I now have in my relationship. Were not married, but I live with my 4 year old daughter and her mother. Her mother does not love me, she only wanted a child to trap me into a relationship for financia... (384 words)

I feel like my perceptions ate getting twisted and I'm not even sure what I want anymore.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I broke up with my boyfriend because he wasn't listening to me or taking my feelings seriously but he kept on trying to meet me and after 2 months I met him again. I told him it was just to talk about stuff, try and help him get clarity as he had so many questions about why I ... (409 words)

My ex left me for someone else a year ago, and I want him back.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my ex were together for 6yrs and have 2kids. Im 25 he is 27 our relationship went boring and very settled and he left me last year for a 22yr old they only lasted a few months and he went off with many women but I have slept with him throughout the last 9months. He said ... (221 words)

Should I leave my wife and 2 kids for my mistress?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Should I leave my wife and especially my 2kids for my 4years realtionship with mistress? I cant seem to leave my mistress, she is 11 years younger than me, I bn married for more that 13 years, soon 14. I dont want her to meet soomeone else, the more I think about it, it gets ... (828 words)

I just found out that my boyfriend got another girl pregnant (before we got together) and dumped her.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I just found out today that before I was with my boyfriend, he had sex with other girls, got them pregnant, told them he would marry them If he had too then left them. I'm so confused this is the first guy that I have really seen having a long relationship with, But now i'm ... (130 words)

Everything is ruined because of a silly text.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I was in a group message with my crush and one day I sent a picture about him and he got really mad. I texted him separately and he apologized for getting really mad and I thought things were going to be OK. Then he canceled plans to go out with friends and my friends and I got ... (148 words)

How can I deal with the office bullies?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear all, I attended the party and got really drunk. I was so wasted that I did not know what I said or did. I was told I had gone crazy and behaved totally different from my quiet image. I am a decent person.I know I made a mistake and I am just paying the price of my acti... (202 words)

Should I just start talking to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi guys, basically I am 16, 17 in 24 days (i'm not counting down or anything haha) and there's this guy that i met in about january last year who is from the school opposite mine. We had a bit of a thing going on, nothing happened between us, just lots of texting and flirting. ... (173 words)

Should I go against my girl's wishes and spend time with my ex and our son on Christmas?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I have 9 month old son with my ex girlfriend who left me before our son was born. I didn't want to be a father at first which is why she left me. I told her that I couldn't afford a child and we are too young ( Shes 21 I'm 24) I was a total dick over it all but she didn't want ... (232 words)

Should I date my soon to be ex husband's 2nd cousin?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and I have been together 7 years. We are currently going through a divorce and it will all be finalized in 25 days. Prior to ever meeting my husband, I was friends with his 2nd cousin for 4 years (therefore I've known him about 11 years). I actually date his cousin ... (116 words)

I need help getting back to normal life after a traumatic experience

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok a long time (few years) ago I made out and got intimate (no oral/vaginal sex) with what I thought was a women but it was a mtf transsexual with full surgery. That was a traumatic experience for me and I have been depressed about it ever since. I feel incredibly dirty and ... (85 words)

Is it too much to ask to have my boyfriend with me when I am depressed?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I have few problems cause of my childhood issues. I go into depression once in a while, most of the time I won't show it to my bf. I just act normally, I'm seeing a psychatraist and taking medicine for it. 2 days back I went into severe depression and started be... (155 words)

She's stopped telling me how she feels, do you think she is losing interest? Can anyone tell me what is going on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, I've got a problem I need advice on. long story short I just started dating my ex of 3 years ago. And before we started dating again we would hang out a lot and she would always tell me how badly she's hooked on me and how badly she's falling for me again. And ... (232 words)

He doesn't want anymore children and wants me to give this one up for adoption, so what do I choose, being a single mother or giving up my baby?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

4 December 2012 (F) - I need help. Me and my boyfriend of 8 years are expecting again. Unfortunately for me, he doesnt want anymore children. He has expressed this to me before even before our first child, but he knew since I was 11 years younger than him and didnt have any children, that I would ... (181 words)

Should I take the apprenticeship even though there is no guarantee of a job at the end?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This isn't a relationship question but I'm hoping you all will have some super advice. So I'm 17 (the age says 18 at the top, no idea why) And I'm currently in my second year of sixth form (sixth form lasts 2 years) so I have till June till I'm done! I'm currently s... (304 words)

We've been together 2 and a half years and he still isnt sure if I'm the girl he wants to spend his life with. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I really need some good advice with this. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 5 months and we have been living together for 4 months. I love him very much, and he loved me too. We both thing we have a great thing going on together, sure we have our ups and downs, but ... (747 words)

My LDR boyfriend hasn't spoken to me in 2 weeks and I'm slowly losing feelings for him, how can I find out what is going on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm confused. He hasnt talked to me like almost for 2weeks.. I'm scared i might loose him. He's the one that always made me smile. He was the one that made my heart beat faster.. Now idk anymore... He's my long distance boyfriend and he hasn't talked to me. Day by day im ... (104 words)

Struggling with long distance

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi... Well right now me and my boyfriend are in a pretty rough state. About 4 months ago i moved to america from persia and he is still there. We were madly in love. the things we went through together was beyond the average girlfriend boyfriend... Im not just a teen ager that ... (420 words)

How can I tell if he settled for me against his apparent "type"?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend looks at porn. This is fine. Although he tends to look at girls who are the seem like the exact opposite of me. They, for example, have tattoos, have edge, and are usually brunette. His favorite girl buddies also look this way.I have often wondered if this is his ... (111 words)

He hasn't text me in 2 weeks, should I contact him or move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - The guy i've been seeing for the past two months hasn't texted me in two weeks... I'm not sure if that's a sign that I should move on, or if I should contact him? Things were going brilliant with us, so I don't know why he has just stopped texting me, the first few days I ... (175 words)

My ex and I are cheating on our new partners together, what should I do? Part of me wants to end it with both of them, part of me wants to get back with my ex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Before anyone says im a slag or idoit or whatever i know i am. Ive been having an affair with my ex behide our new partners backs. The thing is we never really broke up in the first place, we live in different areas of our city now but we would always make time to meet up and ... (378 words)

After 3 years he still wont move in with me.....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He says he loves me and i love him too. Even though weve been through rough patches etc we have always tried to keep strong and make things work. But after 3 years of him being indecisive, i dont think he wants ... (168 words)

What are your opinions on having an extemely self-centered, selfish, hypocritical friend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Z and I started hanging out with each other (met her through my close friend Y) at college, and at first I thought she was a very fun, talkative, and easy-going person. She just has that charm when she first meets new friends. Z and I would spent hours talking on phone over ... (1409 words)

Why did she want me back, only to end up on the dating sites again?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I had lost count on how many times I had found my girlfriend on dating sites and chat rooms that focus on flrting. She either lied to me about being on them or played it down to them just being harmless internet friends and me being jealous. I ended up leaving her after I found ... (205 words)

Why do I get so angry and obsessive in these types of scenarios?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - A friend and I had a falling out three years ago. She dropped me when I was going through a difficult period because she didn't want to deal with my "instability." At the time, I was upset. I mourned the relationship for a month or two, but I moved on with my life and rarely ... (259 words)

Whenever I see him he stares at me. He's the lead singer in one of my favorite local bands. Should I add him on facebook?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - There is this guy I've met last winter (so about 5 months ago). well, we didn't really meet. We were at a bar and kept looking at each other. We took the night bus back home together and he talked to my best friend a little bit while stilll looking at me. Fast foward to... (215 words)

What kind of Christmas gift should be appropriate for my girlfriend's mom?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - my ldr girlfriend offered me to join her and her family for christmas, my question is simple, what kind of gift should be appropiate for her mom ( she has been nice to me, but have only seen her twice ) and for her grandpa ( i havent met him yet, but he is very special for her ... (80 words)

What is the key to being single and happy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am a 24 year old female. I have a good head on my shoulders, I'm career oriented, and for the most part, lead a very balanced and fairly busy life. But ever since I started dating in high school, I've noticed that I've never really been happy when I was single. For the past 8 ... (176 words)

Was I wrong to end my long term relationship over my boyfriend's porn habits?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have always had a problem with my boyfriend’s porn use and we would get into fights about it where he would promise one day he would give it up when he was satisfied with our sex life. I would then promise to let it go and stop snooping on him. However, when we moved in ... (603 words)

I can't stop thinking about a teacher I used to have a crush on. How can I forget him and move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I'm 19, in my second year of university and in a succesful and happy long term relationship. However, I cannot seem to forget about the teacher I had a massive crush (I used to think it was love but now I'm a little older I'm not so sure) on from when I was 14 til when I ... (188 words)

I'm worried that he doesn't enjoy sex with me. He's always too tired for anything other then a handjob or blowjob.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing this guy for little while now. We began having sex 1 month into the relationship, and it was amazing! But, since he began a new job, which can be physically demanding, we hardly ever have sex. We only spend the night together on weekends, as we both work ... (271 words)

I've told him how I feel, and I want to hear his side. What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F) - I love someone.. I told him how I once felt..it was through a facebook message. it was deep.. i know he prefers in person but as a girl my emotions communicated through paper or a message just seemed to work better for me.. if found myself in my words and then I sent it to him. ... (694 words)

Why does he keep changing his mind?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - so my boyfriend of two years broke up with me i was totally wrecked apart i kept texting him and calling him n he said we need time off we cant get back together right now so i stop texting and calling n send him a letter telling him it was fine that we do need a break he calls ... (199 words)

Can FWB relationships work and become something else later on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I live with a friend of mine who I have know for about 15 years, we met at school and have always been good friends. We hung out in the same group and when we were at college became closer. When I broke up with my ex I needed help with the rent and he moved into to help. Things ... (192 words)

Should we stay friends and see where it goes?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

4 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have recently broke up. This made my world come crashing down because i thought he was giving up on us. He has a drinking problem and is depressed about his past and things that have happended in it.At first when we broke up i was very immuture and blammed ... (185 words)