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Archived questions from: 10 December, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why is my husband into this kind of disgusting porn?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4344 days ago

10 December 2012 (?) age 41-50 - My husband and I have been married for 15 years. I have always been aware that he watched porn (before marriage). The first time I found a video I threw it away, and I didn't say anything to him about it and neither did he. Needless to say he got one or two more and hid ... (705 words)

My husband said he can't express happy or be himself around me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I feel empty inside. My husband told me that he can't be himself around people or family when he is with me. he said that when he feels good and has something that makes him happy, he has to hold it in so that I won't burst his bubble. We are not intimate and haven't been for ... (393 words)

What is the wait time to talk to someone again after a great first date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone. So I met a girl online on a dating website. I didn't really think I could meet anyone and that these sites don't work. But I'm happy to be mistaken, I found someone that I find to be gorgeous with the same interest as myself. Now I'm new to this and don't th... (117 words)

I don't know if my boyfriend of 6 years wants to marry me or not

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello All, I am dealing with a HUGE dilemma...and I need your help!! My boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 years, we met in college. We are both almost 26. He just graduated Law School last year and hates being a lawyer, so he says he wants to find a decent job bef... (839 words)

Should I finish school or get pregnant with my 40+ boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Please advise. Like a retard I quit halfway through college several years ago and havent been back. Now I'm dating a man in his early 40s and I am in my mid 20s. He is amazing and we will get married but I must finish school. At same time I feel we will have to hurry and hav... (125 words)

Took DearCupid's advice and now I don't know what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I posted a question on this site a few weeks ago, and I took the advice of the helpful aunts and wanted some help out of a situation I've caused for myself. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/all-the-girls-go-for-my-good-looking35.html I took the advice of the aunts and... (186 words)

Do I honor his original request for "no contact" and ignore the e-mail he just sent?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Long story short, a really good friend of mine recently confessed his feelings for me. Things would not have worked between us (and I told him this), first off because I'm not attracted to him in that way and more importantly because he was, and I believe still is, engaged to ... (388 words)

Who should I be upset with? The girl? My friend? Or myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Who should I be upset with? The girl? My friend? Or myself? So we are all freshman in college. I met this girl and we both really liked each other. We have the same interests, are very social and serious students. She told me she really liked me and wanted a relationship but... (153 words)

She says she isnt ready...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I was seeing this girl for a couple months. I knew she had just recently gotten out of a long term relationship. During the relationship, she got pregnant and eventually lost the baby. She has been out of this relationship for about 5 months before we started seeing eachother. ... (182 words)

I feel like I'm tiptoeing on eggshells around my mother. Help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like I have to tip-toe on egg shells around my mother, and I have no idea what to do. I’m sorry this is so long. But I really need advice and I appreciate whoever takes the time to read this. My mother has always been rather hot-headed. I’m 21 now, and I remember h... (1487 words)

Could I make something happen with this crush of mine?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hello, just wondering if you can give me some tips please, and a bit of advice with girl issues, i will try make it as short as possible basicly i havent had a lot of girlfriends so im not really that experienced, i had my first 'girlfriend' when i was 10, then another whe... (971 words)

I'm not comfortable with the behavior between my husband his adult niece.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband is 49 and had recently reunioned with his niece. They have lost contact for 30 years when she was 9. I was very happy for both of them until recently, I accidentally found their email exchanges when she call my husband daddy, and he calls her little girl. She is 39, ... (192 words)

He doesn't see a future with me, but he wants to keep me in his life? For what?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Why would a guy who has simply stated with clarity that he doesn't see a future with me because, I don't share his culture, race or language be so hell bend on me remaining "friends" with him? It's not like we were friends before---we have a brief sexual relationship that I ... (513 words)

My sex life with my boyfriend of seven years is unsatisfying.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 25 yrs old my boyfriend of 7 years just turned 24 and our sex life sucks we don't have one he sleeps all.day and plays video games all night we don't sleep together anymore when I'm in the mood he tells me I'm a freak to leave him alone he rarely goes out so I know he's ... (83 words)

Should I allow my boyfriend to do something sexually that I'm not comfortable with?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of over a year keeps asking me to let him cum on my face... We've done literally everything else and I feel he should be happy with all the stuff we do. He just won't leave me alone about it. I think I would feel really disgusting and degraded if I let him do it. ... (119 words)

I want to find out if he likes me.. but I don't know what to say

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - i just told this guy i like him but all he replied with is 'haha you must be crazy!' but he says he still likes one of my friends but he doesnt know why.. i want to find out if he likes me.. but i dont know what to say... What would you recommend i do to find out?... (59 words)

I'm annoying myself with texting my ex and I don't know how to stop!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've really lost my temper with my ex today and I can't calm down. We split up because my friend found him on a dating site, when I asked him about it he went mad called me a fat ugly c**t and made out set him up. I'd had months of him calling me a slag for no reason. He ... (267 words)

My cheating ex says I am not a "Good Person" because, I refuse to take him back.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - An ex that I dated about three or four years ago, says that I am not being "Christian" because, I refuse to take him back, because, I refuse to call and talk to him and because, I refuse to go out with him and pretend like we are "friends." I have forgiven this guy because, he ... (1013 words)

Is it normal not to have had a boyfriend and kissed a boy and all that stuff at my age?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - i'm 17 in a couple of weeks, and i haven't really had a boyfriend, never properly kissed a boy or anything, and i was wondering if that is normal. majority of my friends have boyfriends and stuff, and i don't think i'm shallow, and yes there have a been a couple of ... (80 words)

Why would he keep these intimate pics of his exes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I have been with my partner for 3 years now. About 2 years ago I came across semi naked and naked pics of a couple of his ex girlfriends, he did get rid of them. Then I found more on his pc which he said he didnt realise they were there and has deleted any intimate ones. Now ... (172 words)

My feelings for her have re-emerged and anyone else seems bland by comparison!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - So... basically, i'm in love with one of my friends. i've known her for quite some time now (about 5 years) and have loved her ever since. when i knew that i had feelings for her, i took my courage in both hands and confessed my feelings for her. when she refused, I tried to ... (194 words)

The past is not always in the past and lies hurt!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok this is more of a post rather than a question and I've been wanting to post this for awhile and feel I want to be an advocate to those that have been hurt and lied to and has damaged there lives so with that said here I go .thismay be all over the place and not the most ... (799 words)

I've been married 8 months and am still a virgin. Should I tell my parents?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi just thought of finding solution to my problem here .i am 25 years old girl and my husband is 31. I am confused. That my husband is gay or impotent because we are married for 8 months now and till today we have not had sex. He doesn'ttouch me even not kiss or hug me.he ... (123 words)

My 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager. Will her grow out of it?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My problem is that my 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager at times. He is still very influenced by what his friends think, and because of that he often does things to fit in with them. He is often the drunkest guy on a night out because he thinks the 'far too drunk' ... (219 words)

Does anyone feel shame after masturbating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I've read a lot of testimony from others about feelings of shame after masturbating, and I share a similar experience. However, I am only ashamed after thinking about or viewing certain things that under normal circumstances I would find morally wrong, such as hardcore or ... (119 words)

My older husband says he is too tired to have sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Iam 33 years old and am married to a 65yr old man.My problem is he's very restrictive,won't let me go any where.I like clubbing but he won't let me go and when I tell him to go with me he says he doesn't want and that kills me.Two, we can only do sex maybe once in a month and ... (95 words)

Do I leave my fiance because I'm not totally happy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been engaged to an amazing guy for a year, i really love him but there are a few things that i really don't like about him, one is that his a momma's boy who can't do anything without his mom's help and another is that he is not thinking about a future with me. He ... (302 words)

I'm losing my best friend and I don't know why!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I think I'm losing my best friend. We have been friends for 12 years, but lately we've been really strained. I moved hours away, and we hardly ever talk anymore. I had to come back for immediate eye surgery which I told her about and she calls me the next day to come drive to ... (193 words)

My girlfriend said the doctor told her she had 2 vaginas. Help! Can someone explain this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - this may be a really stupid question on my part, and i apologize in advance if it is. it's just something i've been thinking a lot about recently and i can't seem to find any answers in laymans terms that i can understand on this particular topic. i started seeing a girl a ... (343 words)

Boyfriend uses porn to "practice". Should I be concerned?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F) age 30-35 - Me and my bf have been together for a little over a year. He occasionally watches porn when im not around. we dont live together...and only see each other about once a week. hes always honest, caring and loving and we have a great relationship. we have a great sex life as well. ... (144 words)

My husband doesn't sleep in the same bed with me. Should I get divorced?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I married since 1994. After four years later, we have first child my husband did not want to sleep with me on the same bed, because I breast feeding. But after my child turn one he still did not want to sleep together. However, sometime he came to my room to have sex that why ... (199 words)

We've only been married six weeks and my husband wants a divorce

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Im in a big family trouble now. And I wish I could get some advice from here. ( I dont know hot to begin this question ...) Me and my husband we have knew each other more than a year then we got married 6 weeks ago. And yesterday he told me he wants a divorce. ... (797 words)

How can I stop freezing up when I meet a girl I like?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4364 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I have always had trouble going for the wrong girls because i have always been to shy to talk to the ones i actually like. I hope not to sound conceited here but i know i am not bad looking, in fact i get a lot of compliments on the way i look. But when i see a gir... (141 words)

What is your position on living together before marriage?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello dear Aunts :) and uncles :) What is your position on living together before marriage? Before engagement? What do you think the pros and cons are to each scenario? Some say that while living together, the man gains everything, while the woman not so much. How does ... (108 words)

I just want to make sure I'm not being overly sweet or too clingy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4364 days ago

10 December 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys I'm now dating a girl I've always had feelings for and i do believe i love her. We are both very happy and we connect so very well its uncanny. I want to make sure she will keep growing stronger feelings for me but am a little scared that because i'm such a nice guy ... (199 words)

I can't seem to figure out exactly what I'm holding onto with my 'virginity.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

10 December 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am so confused as to how to view my virginity. I am 20 years old, female, live in London, UK. I would say I am pretty. Long black hair, light brown eyes, taller than average - 5'8, medium sized body. I have met guys in the past, but usually it ends before it even s... (628 words)