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*omoko2011
writes:Hi~ I have a question...when my "fiance" told me we are still dating is that consider the normal term to say??since our relationship has committed to each other and going to get marriedI kind confused.... Reply to this Question
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reader, momoko2011 +, writes (2 December 2011):
momoko2011 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you soooooo much for all your answers~~~
really appreciated!!!! yes, actually i just talked to my fiancee...and he has explaned and apologized....
that has cleared all my confusion...
thank you sooooo much~~~!!
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reader, hollykins_971  +, writes (2 December 2011):
I wouldn't like it if I was you either. Maybe he doesn't mean it as such a big deal and possibly haveing a relationship to him is the same as dating.
I think you have a few opptions here: 1/ take it the situation head on and say we are more than dating now we are in a relationship (it doesn't need to be said agresivly just more like how it is), 2/ make light of the situation and say in a playful way, oh we are dating and here was me thinking we were in an exclusive relationship, I geuss that means i'm free to date others then, 3/ express how you feel in a calm controlled way, if he brings it up or off your own back you could try summet like, I don't think i'm to cool with you refering to are relationship as dating when were ingaged to be married. I know you didn't mean anything by it it just upset me/got to me a little
Note: always own your own feelings! that way it won't lead into an argument. Nobody can tell you how you feel, only you know that yourself. So if you say I don't like this because I feel, nobody can argue with that.
How a'lot of arguments can start is when people say you have made me feel like this because. Not everyonr has the same way of looking at things. Not saying you do this, i'm just trying to give you a possible idea for what happens wity a'lot of people to start arguments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): as long as you're not 'married' you're still dating...
I mean look at it this way, being engaged is not the same thing as being married. one of you could still decide to walk away from this relationship and not suffer legal consequences or have to involve laywers and court fees. Thus, anything other than marriage is, in my opinion, 'dating.'
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 December 2011):
 Talk to him and ask him what he meant by this, everyone uses the term 'dating' in different ways. So instead of some confusion between the two of you ask him to explain to you what he meant by it as it has got you confused. Am sure he will explain and settle your mind for you. Good luck.
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