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If I make the first move but then find he doesn't like me, will it freak him out?

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Question - (1 December 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 December 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, *rinityHunter writes:

So there's this guy I REALLY like. He's only one month older than me, he's really sweet, smart, VERY funny, and he's country. I feel like we were made for each other. Were SO much alike. We always joke around and play holding hands in class and I think he might like me back. I was thinking about making the first move but I had a quick question before I did. If you make the first move on someone and find that they DIDN'T like you back, would it kind of freak them out? And what should I do as my first move??? Thanks!!!

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A female reader, hollykins_971 United Kingdom +, writes (2 December 2011):

I personaly would not make the first move because I think it should be up to the man to do the purseing. I know some people might think it's sexist or an unfair coment but imagine this senario.

A man, his wife and two kids are a sleep at night. Their is thief breaking an entry. Mom goes down to sort him out whilst dad and kids stay up stairs for their safety. Imagine this rediculae senario. Something seem not quit right with it! without being sexiesd their are somethings men should do and women not! Women give birth men don't. Women have lady parts and a man has man parts ect.

I berlive in equal oportunity but as a RULE think that men and women carn't all do the same things, this is going off my extensive reaserch.

However if you like him a'lot and you think he likes you back to then go for it if it feels right to you. I would approach the situation by saying I really like you. If he says nothing back or you don't get a good reaction, you can say your a really good friend, your like a brother to me. If he says I don't like you like that you could say something like, I don't mean like that! I mean't it as my friend, I see you like my brother. If you get embarased or go red you could say I feel really embarased that you think I could see you that way.

Good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011):

i would say go ahead and make a move. as a guy, i tend to like when a girl makes the first move, because usually i have to. just say something simple like, "this is kinda embarrassing, but i really like you" if it doesn't work, its not the end of the world, but its worth trying. as Michael Jordan said, "you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take." good luck

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (1 December 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntNo I don't think it would freak him out, it sounds to me like you are both quite close at the minute so am sure it won't come as a huge surprise to him that you like him. I guess you can just do whatever you feel comfortable with, maybe flirt with him so that he gets the hint or else ask him would he like to hang out at the weekend. Just take things slowly and see where it leads is the best bet.

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