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*ngelika08
writes:For the last six months or so, I have been really aroused because of my husband. Not that I wasn't before, but lately he's just all I can think about, and I can't wait to rip his clothes off. Here is my problem, whenever I try to start something with him, he says he's not in the mood, or I'm annoying him.. This is really hurtful to me. Why is he acting like this? Am I the problem?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 December 2011):
 Honey you have two children... you have plenty of experience...
I assume the thing he wants you to do more often is blow jobs... just watch your teeth...curl your lips around them a bit..
and find out what he likes... ask him....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 December 2011):
 Your not "the problem".... HE IS!!!!!!
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reader, Angelika08 +, writes (1 December 2011):
Angelika08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI Honestly don't know what could be going on with him. We have two children, but they sleep all night, and his work has slowed down due to the weather. I'm not pregnant. He does often say I should do the things he really likes more often, but my trouble is I get insecure and feel like I won't be good at something. He was my first for everything, and I feel like I have something to prove because he's had more then one partner before me. I don't think I'm as "experienced".
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 December 2011):
why would you think YOU are the problem?
sounds like he has a problem...
have you asked him at a time when you are not trying to be intimate what's going on? do you prefer mornings and he prefers nights (that's OUR big problem it's a timing issue)
what else is going on?
finacial issues?
work?
school?
are you pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): Classic female response, we direct fault/blame inwards, men outwards.
From where I sit, NOPE, not you - its totally him.
What was sex life before marriage? And what is it like now?
Are there any current stress factors going on in Husbands Job, life? Seems preoccupied often?
What is your libido compared to his?
When did this dynamic change? When did he become emotionally distant? He still holding, hugging you? Kissing you?
How is the friendship of the marriage away from the intimate/lovemaking?
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