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writes:[Mod note: could you please add your age and his in a followup? That will help you get age-appropriate advice. Thank you.]I met this great guy through a friend. We met at my friends birthday party, swapped numbers and have been texting every day for a month. He seemed to really like me and kept asking me to go on a date.We went out on monday night. The plan was to go for a meal then to a cocktail bar just round the corner. We seemed to really hit it off and he seemed to like me, he was smiling a lot, chatty, even mirroring my body language. We were talking about a band he likes and when I said I wasn't too familiar with them he said he'd lend me their album.We ended up sitting at the restaurant chatting for 3 hours and by the time we left we had been speaking so long that the cocktail bar had closed so he said "its ok we'll just go there next time."So I thought he was keen. But he didn't text me at all on tuesday or yesterday. Today I text him just saying hey and we've sent a few texts back and forth but nothing like before our date. There can be 3 or 4hrs between texts now and they're really short and not as chatty.I'm being so self critical now even thinking maybe he was drunk at the party when we met and he thinks I'm ugly when he's sober!Logic tells me he's not interested because if a man likes you he'll want to speak to you but then why did he mention us going out again or offer to lend me his stuff? I just don't get it. I don't want to ask him out because I'll be mortified if he says no (which instinct tells me he would say)Advice? Thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2011): If he aint in touch or keen then put it behind you. Men wont hesitate if they want a particular woman.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 December 2011):
 Well I think you should just give this one some time. Your instinct might be right, however you may be over reacting a little bit to soon and becoming paranoid. It has only been a couple of days. Maybe he just does not want to come on to strong or rush in to anything. You have only been on one date with this man, so just slow things down and take your time with it. Don't let your mind go in to over drive, if he is interested he will ask again, so just wait a while and see what happens in the next few weeks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): it sounds so very much like he may have either been drunk or has changed his mind.
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