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writes:I have recently started seeing a guy who I am beginning to have feelings for however from the little i have heard of his past he is a bit of a player. he is a good looking guy and knows it loves the attention. We been seeing each other for past few weeks and agreed we seeing each other however im not sure if he sees this as being exclusively or not. He is away this weekend and from all i know it is a girl who used to live near him that organising the event. i have no idea if he is the only one going or not and im afraid to ask as i dont want to look to clingly or like a psycho. my plan was to just wait till he comes back and see how things go and being up how i feel later on down the line as i dont want to scare him away. any advice on whether i should say to him or wait and take things as they come?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): I think I'm going to just see how things go when he comes back and see what happens and if further down the line I mention it to him and take things from there. Most people I've asked don't count seeing someone as being exclusive so it is confusing
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2011): Tell him you are making plans to see someone else yourself. (even if you have to make up a story.) If he doesn't mind you doing this, then you have your answer. It's not exclusive.
If this guy gets upset or asks you not to do see anyone else, then you can ask him whether you & him are exclusive right then and there.
If he won't clearly tell you that your relationship is exclusive then you must assume it's not. Especially with this kind of guy.
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (2 December 2011):
if you're not comfortable with being direct and straightforward in asking him how he feels about your relationship, then just wait and see (but then you'll have to deal with the uncertainty and ambiguity for longer).
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