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writes:i feel unworthy or incompatible for any lady i meet. alone and down but too scared to show my face in public cuz i feel like an ugly outkast. i have friends. and my family is supportive. but i have no comfidence in myself. advice is much needed. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your responses you guys. its a good feeling knowing that good people are willing to help.i am feelin a bit depressive and i do have anxiety problems but only because of poor self image. i do not wish to be seen.. which is rubbish cuz a part of me wants to go out and do things i used to do. im in love with nature.. and i enjoy sports.. i wanna go out and watch a movie with my family or a group of friends.. it dont matter. i jus wanna do sumthin..
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 December 2011):
 There has to be something you are good at. If you don't know what that is, take the time to figure it out. Don't worry about relationships right now, focus about you.
What in life do you LOVE to do?
What are your dreams for yourself for the future?
Also it sounds like you have some sort of anxiety, have you ever been diagnosed with anything like that? If not, maybe go see your doctor and get a referral.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): Not a medical professional, but you seem to be describing signs of clinical depression, a treatable illness.
First, schedule an appointment for a complete physical exam to rule out any underlying physical problems (i. e. chemical imbalance) that may be affecting your mood.
Assuming medical clearance, your health care provider can review your behaviorial health options and hopefully connect you with the proper clinical resources.
If you don't have health insurance or access to health care, go to the nearest hospital emergency room, open 24/7 with behaviorial clinicians always on site or on call.
You've taken the first step, recognizing there's a problem. That takes courage. Now act on it, and don't wait, you'll only feel worse without treatment.
I was in a much darker place a few months ago but found the right help and was able to work my way back to baseline.
Best wishes.
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reader, Rabz  +, writes (1 December 2011):
 Hello:) well beauty is a big deal when you know what's the defintion of beauty...beauty is about the inside /the outiside the way you treat yourself and the way you treat the others, be simple, try to find your beauty, try to discover what is beautiful about yourself it could be a hobby, a job, a smile, your voice, your jokes, the way you communicate, I've seen loads of ugly man with beautiful women and vice versa, I always ask myself why ugly man go out with beautiful women and the vice versa well this is not the case it happens that this man discovered something beauty about him and showed it to the women he choose and share it with her, try to hit on women from your own standard and level don't go so high and tyring to approach a mission impossible case, just be reasnable and write down on a paper what do you need, what you are looking for , and what might suit you as a person,background,culture the way you look , all of that once you know who she might be then it could be easier to select the right targe, and once you are ready to hit it go for it. It's all about selfconfident...just shout out loud nobody is perfect...and as well write down what's good about you and what's bad about you and I'm sure you will find the good list is longer form the bad list...just be honest with yourself...you can do it:D
goodluck
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