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*rettyprincess2011
writes:So my husband smoke pot, and I don't. My big issue on the whole thing is that he is constantly smoking more and more, and our money is really tight. I end up using all of the money I earn to pay my half of the bills and then whatever he can't cover. And about a week or two ago I found out that he used money that I left for my baby brother to pay for a front, so I called his dealer and asked him not to front him anymore. And now the dealer doesn't want to sell to my husband because of that. Was it wrong of me to say something, or am I ok with asking for him to have the money in hand before he (my husband) tries to buy weed?
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Send him to rehab. He's an addict and it's starting to destroy your life.
If you don't get him into rehab, and you stay with him, you WILL see greater and bigger problems as his addiction gets worse.
People who smoke pot often do so to self-medicate, especially when it escalates the way it has with your husband. He is probably either suffering through depression or anxiety, and needs therapy as soon as possible.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Oh boy. This is only going to get worse for you. He's nursing an addiction.
Financially, he's going to blow your credit rating for the long term by ignoring bills. Right now, you're carrying things, but eventually you will crumble under the weight.
Socially, you'll be at a disadvantage, because you're the wife of a pothead and he's not thinking about keeping contacts other than his dealer.
Economicly, he could lose the income he has due to drug use, which as we all know is frowned on by any respectable employers.
Personally, long term heavy pot use will suck out the man you fell in love with and leave a hollow shell of someone you no longer know.
You have to take a stand for the marriage, and if he's not willing to change, then you need to take a stand for yourself and future, because right now, he's smoking your family's dreams, livelihood, and future.
It sounds like you know his dealer if you're able to call them. You need to extricate yourself from this really bad news dilemma you're in.
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 You are in every right to say something! His habits is not fair to you and using your money for his habits is wrong. Especially when it can get you into trouble with police.
You should talk to him and try to work things out but if not I would consider your options of leaving him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): No, it wasn't wrong for you to say something. If he wants to buy pot it's down to him to use his own money.
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