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writes:I feel I am loosing myself confidence, I use to be able to go outside wearing my pj's and no make-up, and now I wouldn't dare, at least not without feeling like crap. This is all because of my weight, I can't seem to get control of myself, I am the biggest I have been my whole life, I can tell the man I am with is disappointed in how I let myself go, I don't know what or where to turn. I need advice, kind words, why is this happening to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): why have you gained weight?comfort eating? any reason lately?it all ends up a vicious circle....you hate your weight and even if you try to diet you rebel and stuff your face with comfort food yet you hate yourself for doing so. trouble is it wont happen overnight and its so hard to stay motivated. first thing is to be doing it for YOURSELF..forget what you think your husband thinks...is he as trim as he could be?. wear what suits you and what colours suit you...get a new hair do...change the colour. dont slop around in pjs and no make up....make the most of yourself now!...look in the mirror when you are dressed at you best and you will look good and feel good....it will spur you on to stop comfort eating and get your clothes feeling loose.go for walks...do some excercise...get you husband to go with you...it will make YOU feel better that he knows you are trying.dont weigh yourself..it never works trying to watch the needle drop....the only way is by you clothes not being as tight. get some exercise, drink loads of water cut down on your portions and eat healthy!itwont take long to start to feel better and your clothes fitting better and it will spur you on...you can do it...for you. good luck
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (15 January 2012):
 Fork over some money and join a gym. If you don't like your weight, complaining and feelings depressed over it won't solve your issue. Hit the gym 2 or 3 times a week and see if you can lose the weight without adjusting your diet. It's much easier to go to the gym than abandoning or reducing some of your favorite foods. Ask a girlfriend if she wants to join you, or your current boyfriend to keep you motivated.
If you want to feel better about yourself, wearing PJ's in public is definitely not the way to go about it. There is nothing sexy or remotely acceptable about PJ's outside of the house. It's not attractive in any way, shape or form. Dress up instead of dressing down. I know I feel instantly better about myself when I'm wearing something cute or hot. PJs, sweatpants or basic T-Shirts won't increase your self-confidence. Do your makeup, dress up and feel at least good about our presentation until you reach your target goal.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 Join Nutrisystems. It works! And start an exercise program. Join a gym if you aren't motivated to work out at home. Find a girlfriend to be your work out partner. You have now identified a problem in your life. Now it's time to solve it.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (15 January 2012):
 Hi,
Life is busy, stressful, and you get tired so that can affect your weigh. If you can afford financially try to join a gym. Exercise can help you lose weight, help you mentally and give you energy. Do not pressure yourself loosing the weigh fast or do not skip meals. People make mistake in starving, they might lose few pounds, but gain immediately. You got to do the right way and slow. 1) exercise. 2) do not eat fast food or drink soda. 3) eat all 3 meals/day and snacks in between, drink lots of water. If you eat out, order salad, chicken, fish. 4) substitute white bread w/wheat bread. 5) if you have craving for hamburger, pasta, etc try to eat less the amount you would regularly eat. 6) when you go grocery shopping look for the 90calories choices, like special K cereal and they have many snacks like brownies less than 90ca, yogurt, just make sure when you buy things like butter, etc just look for calories. If you want ice cream, get frozen yogurt. In USA we are so lucky to have so many choices. Remember, do not do starvation diet, that only make it worst. It's all about making the right choices, substituting certain kinds of food, portion control. It's about changing your life style. I know that you don't feel good physically right now, but losing the weigh is not only for looks. Of course, it will help you feel better about yourself, but what's more important is your health and doing those changes will also give you more energy.
Good luck
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 January 2012):
 Well, in some of us, our metabolism slows down as age advances, coupled with eating being used as comfort, as well as a lack of decent sleep, stress, young kids, and a need to set s program for ourselves that can cause our physical fitness and weight to get out of hand.
Luckily, it's reversible! I won't lie...it will take work, but if you can find a good friend to be a Diet or workout buddy, that will help. That's one of the awesome things about Weight Watchers...you feel like you're not alone!
Start with your doctor, who will give you a checkup, physically assess you, make sure there are no medical issues like blood pressure, thyroid, or blood sugar, and get his advice (and maybe a referral to a dietician) on how to set up a weight loss plan.
Good luck!
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