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writes:i am 29 girlfriend is 21 but she looks about 13 or 14. is it wrong to be going out with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks 4 all your replys i think i just need to get on with it and with her coz i do really like her and its about me my gf and what could happen thanks to all i will keep you up-to-date
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reader, Golu  +, writes (31 January 2012):
 No it is not wrong to date with her,because my boyfriend is 20 and he just looks like 16. So,in my opinion you should go to date with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): No it's not wrong to be going out with her but if her looks or other people's opinions/comments bother you to the extent that you would break up with her, then do it. Obviously your feelings aren't really that strong if that's the case, so it'll save you both from just wasting your time on this relationship.
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reader, itcantjustbeme  +, writes (31 January 2012):
 I read an article in Psychology Today that said people who are perceived as younger are often just more energetic and smile more. Which in personal relationships usually draws you in because happy people are more pleasing to be around. As well in behavioral terms the male brain seeks for woman (even seen in homosexual men...so sometime seeks other men) who are seemed as small and weaker, thats why its typical for men to find a mate in younger women. It's completely understandable, as well as justifiable as long as she's of age, which she is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): No you are not wrong to date her you are both of legal age so what is the problem I'm 25 my boyfriend is 36 I often get told I look about 16 this doesn't bother us cos we love each other
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 January 2012):
 You present as aged 29 and currently living in the UK. Your girlfriend is 21 and is young looking. The age of consent in the UK is 16. At 21 both of you are legally seen as adults and there is nothing you cannot legally do.
I really don't understand, what is the problem again? Two adults are dating.... I can't see why your wasting time here, or what would bother anyone either legally or morally.
You seem to have a problem with the lady.. maybe she doesn't turn you on and your looking for a way to dump her.
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reader, angelluvr +, writes (30 January 2012):
I say, that if you know for 100% that she is 21...then do what you want. To hell with what other people think. It also helps if she is hot !! Just Kidding!!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 January 2012):
 I disagree with the last poster that there is something wrong with you. If you were dating an actual 13-14 year old, then there would be something wrong with you! In fact, my opinion is that the fact that you're asking this question on here is evidence that there's NOT something wrong with you.
My college roommate was 19-21 and looked 13 years old! Now she looks like a 20 year old now that she's in her mid 30's with 2 kids and we all are jealous as hell!
If you like her and she's actually 21, by all means, date her! If you're worried about what people might think seeing you two together, don't! She's 21! Think of it this way -- if you two become serious and spend an extended future together, you'll be envied for sure when 10 years goes by and she's 31 and looks 21!!!
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (30 January 2012):
If that means you're attracted to 13/14 year olds and tend to fish in that age range pool then yes, I would say something is wrong with you.
However, your gf isn't 13/14 years old and she probably does not behave like someone who is. So when it comes to maturity I don't think the age gap is an issue at all. However, since there is a gap when it comes to how old you both look, I can understand why you would feel awkward about it.
A 30 y/o friend of mine once dated a 23-y/o until someone asked her if he was her dad (she looked very young as well-- around age 16). He couldn't let that go so they ended up breaking up, but if you two truly care about each other I wouldn't let that phase you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 January 2012):
 how old she looks has no bearing on if you date her.
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