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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and everyday I hang out with her and her friends. I think that I'm starting to have feelings for her best friend. No matter what I do I can't stop thinking of her. I'm not sure what to do or if this is just someing like I want what I can't have.
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reader, peacelovecandy +, writes (20 January 2012):
 Break up with your girlfriend or don't go near her friends! It would break your girlfriend's heart if she knew you had something for her BEST FRIEND, and the chances are her best friend will either hate you or love you, and ruin the friendship between the two. Would you rather cause a mess of drama or shake off the feelings and stay with your girlfriend? Maybe you're just feeling lust, and time away can be very effective. It isn't right to crush on your girlfriend's friend, and it isn't right to break best friends apart. Do the right thing and end it or step out of it. Good luck, either way!
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reader, childof1981 +, writes (18 January 2012):
 Having asked the question you did you need to do something else first. Think about your feelings for your current girlfriend and if there is not really any strong feeling there you need to break up with her. It's wrong to continue a relation where mutual feelings don't exist (except when both parties are aware of this) and you owe it to the second party to be honest with them.
After thats done you can move on to new things. Not that dating your ex's friends is a good idea BTW. I would advise moving on from the girlfriend and the crush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2012): I agree with youwish, a very bad idea. There is no way I would ever go after my best friend's ex under any circumstances, let alone go after him while they were still together. There is no way I would even talk to her ex if he dumped her for me either. Stay away from the best friend all together, she won't like you for hurting her friend, do nothing except figure out how you really feel about your current girlfriend.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 January 2012):
 STAY AWAY From the best friend. Seriously. Bad, bad bad bad idea. That breaks all sorts of woman-law to even look at a best friend's boyfriend, much less commit the ultimate betrayal of stealing a best friend's guy. No way! Even if you and your GF broke up, it's not likely that you could go after the best friend unless her best friend (your ex) gave her permission. Likely though, your ex would consider you with a lot of negative opinions, and a best friend will likely despise you for hurting her best friend anyways.
I know there are disloyal friends out there, but I wouldn't care if my best friend dated the last guy on earth, who happened to be the hottest man on earth. No way in hell would I ever touch a good friend's man.
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