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writes:Hi all, just looking for a bit of insight on this one! I'm 26, and literally the only single one left out of all my friends! When I was 15, I had my first boyfriend and we were together for 5 years. I broke it of as we drifted apart, and I finished Uni, built my career and basically learned all about myself and how to enjoy my own company. I have dated, and even fell in love with somebody but it wasn't to be. He met someone else and it literally broke my heart. I've dated since then, but every guy that I actually like does EXACTLY the same thing to me - they'll act reakky keen, pursue me, text days to message me back, being 'up and down' and hinting at wnting more but never actually committing. Its really upsetting me. All my loved ones tell me not to take it personally and that I am attractive, intelligent, funny etc but I don't understand why these so called men feel like I deserve to be treated in this way! I'm quite honest, and will be frank with them about this but it doesn't usually make a difference. The thing is, I can't change who I am attracted to, and even though some guys may seem nice, if the spark isn't there, I don't want to settle. I really feel like it's my turn for some happiness, but I've been burned so many times it feels impossible :/ any advice greatly appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2014): I think this is what is happening all over the world.
I was on vacation couple months ago, and listening to jazz in a local bar met a guy. I liked him instantly and more so when he started talking. He sounded so confident and shy at the same time, had beatifull eyes and smelled good. I was alone, wanting company.The last 3 days we spent together, he was showing me sights.I was almost in love, all he had to do is kiss me. I saw he likes me, checks me out all the time.i didn't care if he was serious about me, all I wanted for him is to make love to me. No, that did not happen.
Even just for sex men now days are not brave enough.
They are afraid of rejection, they say, but how can they be absolutely sure until they ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2014): Hi, I'm the OP. An interesting article, but I still don't get why men prefer being alone. Surely its an excuse to say your 'scared'. The frustrating thing is, some of the men (not all, but some) that have let me down, have gone on to form a relationship with another. Even my mom has noticed the culture change, saying she 'doesn't understand' some of the blokes I've been involved with. They literally puzzle us!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 July 2014):
 http://haleyshalo.wordpress.com/2013/10/03/do-people-even-want-to-date-anymore/
Read this page. Golden. A peer into the modern frustrated male mind.
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