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Is there something wrong with a man who is watching the 'teen' category in porn?

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Question - (29 July 2014) 14 Answers - (Newest, 30 June 2018)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

As a woman I have no problem with consentually adult material ie porn however I often notice when seeing the categories that teen is always one of them

Personally it makes me feel sick and I steer well away from that but maybe I'm overreacting

So my question is this . Is it normal for men to watch teen porn on these site . How can that be ok . Are they claiming that teen means only 18 and 19 . It disturbs me seeing it promoted as teen because most teenage years are not just 18 and 19 ..

So I'm wondering would it be common for a 40 year old porn viewer to be watching the teen category or is that a sign there is something wrong with the man

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A female reader, disgusted86 United States +, writes (30 June 2018):

I think so seeing as I have a 7,&5 year old daughter and an 18 MONTH old daughter whom he helps me with . And claims as his own and lately I've had to sneak and take pictures of the kind of teen porn he's been searching and the sites. Teen porn searches such as "jailbait", teen forced/ raped or molested,tiny4k, roughly fu#@*d teen...I mean.. we have pretty crazy sex ourselves and I'll do whatever he wants an play a long..but when we get in arguments and don't speak all week or have sex.. this is what I found on his phone.. when I ask you haven't watched porn?, his reply is when do I have time .. clearly at work putting in people's a.c. units... it's gross and makes me think now and watch his eyes when we're in public the little girl's he's looking at ... this crap scars women and makes us feel some type of way.... I see that he wants a young girl..but knows he'll get in trouble I guess.. when I mention it he'll just yell and change the lock on his phone.. smh

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2015):

I am also dealing with the same problem. Ever since my daughter was born 8 years ago I noticed my partner constantly watching teen porn and preferably Asians girls (They look about 12) for years I have put this to the back of my head but i never forget. I recently discovered he has been having sex with prostistties and also treating himself to sexual massages.

As I am being a mother to our child, all he can think about is himself, unfortuanlty he has no idea how to treat women and is considerably selfish, weak and lacks confidence. I now have come to a point where I have to walk away to protect my child. Everybody has a natural instinct and I just wished I had walked away a long time ago but I thought he might change.

It's disappointing but reality.

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A female reader, Madmom South Africa +, writes (11 July 2015):

I am a mother of 3. I do think its sick because you constantly have to worry about your kids safety. Why must teenage porn be exposed so much it is just a stir up for rapest. Once a rapest always a rapest especially if you do all things to get to sex.sleeping teenage, facial sex etc art that is disgusting

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A female reader, Lester28 Canada +, writes (14 August 2014):

I personally think it's creepy, there are tons of visuals for a man to watch online and why a young teen was chosen?? Just saying. No one really knows the age of the porn star we all just hope they are of age which I think should be bumped up to 21 - my opinion. Know a lot of people either were dancing or web cams etc.. and at the "adult" age of 18 and now soooo regret it. A few more years of maturity make a world of difference

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2014):

Older than dirt brought up a good point I hadn't thought about. Maybe looking at teens once in awhile reminds older men of their teenage years, which if they enjoyed those years, why wouldn't they want a reminder every now and then?

I really don't think the type of porn a man watches says anything about who he is as a person. As long as he shows respect for people in real life, then I wouldn't consider it a problem.

Is it really the teen category that bothers you, or is it that you feel you can't measure up because you're no longer a teenager? Because if that is the real reason you don't like it, you need to keep in mind there is also a category for middle aged women, and granny porn too. Should it make 18-19 year old women feel inferior that some guys will choose to look at older women over them? I don't think so. Each man will have his own preferences. You can choose not to be with someone who looks at teens if it makes you too uncomfortable, because you have plenty of other options.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 July 2014):

olderthandirt agony auntTeen vidsre interesting only in that it brings back memories that yo don't need to know about.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2014):

1. it's a mistake to assume that a man thinks about much of ANYTHING while watching porn. The storylines & situations in porn are usually so cheesy and bad that may just be crap for him to skip though. Most guys just like hot bodies and/or sexual activities. They don't have to give a shit about the storyline at all.

2. the "teen" category in legal porn means 18-19yo. The legal porn industry is careful not to overstep the line to infer that either the actors or the characters are underage. They love the "I just turned 18yo" stuff but that is where it stops if they don't want to get arrested.

3. the average male porn producer is a much sicker and more misogynistic bastard than the average male porn viewer. Its a mistake to look at the attitude displayed in porn movies and assume it reflects what the viewer wants. This will change as soon as it becomes more socially acceptable to be a porn maker and more normal people get into that business. (probably never)

4. People don't call teenage girls sick evil perverts when they get attracted to grown older men. Its not fair to call grown men sick evil perverts for being attracted to teenage girls either. Neither one of those attractions has anything to do with maturity. Its just nature at work for both grown men and young girls. We should discourage people from getting into these relationships in reality but trying to edit it out of people's natural urges is pointless.

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A female reader, Dionee' South Africa +, writes (31 July 2014):

Dionee' agony auntThese girls aren't underage. Some men just like the youthful look of these young women and enjoy fantasizing while watching this porn as maybe these women are dressed as school girls etc. It's often a fantasy that will never be acted upon so I guess there's nothing to worry about. You may find it odd and creepy but its like all other pornographic material; its just there as visual material that may provoke a certain feeling and/or response in people.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014):

Most men are attracted to women who have an adult body. So if a woman is underage but has the body of an adult, the fact she is under 18 won't stop men from being attracted to her. And just because the law says it's wrong won't stop men from fantasizing. This is assuming they're watching underage girls anyway. They most likely are of age, but some will LOOK younger.

There are men out there who wouldn't be attracted to 18-19 year olds, but not many. This 40 year old you're talking about isn't any less of a man over the porn he watches. It may seem a bit creepy, yes. But it's how he treats women in real life that matters.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (30 July 2014):

chigirl agony auntIt's not a sign of anything wrong. People are drawn to the fantasy of what's forbidden. For an adult man, a teenager at 18 is most likely out of reach, so it becomes a sweet fantasy.

Sure, some people who are off in their heads might watch it too, but in general.. no, it's not a sign that anything is wrong.

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2014):

oldbag agony auntIf these teens go into the work of their own free will then they know that any aged man will be watching them. To them its a job, they get paid. Supply and demand.

I 'would' find it uncomfortable if the teens were forced into doing it.

Men watch all sorts of porn, its fantasy not reality.If they were out every weekend chasing young teens, yes I would be digusted, a lot of men aged 40ish have daughters that age and want to protect them. It goes against the grain.

I find a lot of categories of porn are disgusting - anything inflicting pain to me is wrong. I would not stop with a man who found it erotic.We all have our own limits.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014):

Many men and I might even venture to say most men desire younger women. It's safe to say they probably fantasize about being with women who are younger than them.

Personally, any man or woman or whatever who is 30+ who watches teen category porn is odd. Depending on how often they watch it and in what ways they enjoy it, I would be inclined to call them a pervert.

I don't care if the actresses/actors are legally adults. Doesn't make me feel better knowing that some people enjoy WATCHING and IMAGINING a teenager engaged in sexual acts. That's weird and sick. I mean, would you give a second thought if a man you knew was a fan of rape porn? Doesn't mean he would rape in real life, but it's definitely unsettling that he gets turned on by it.

Of course, not everyone who watches teen category porn are of that mindset. Maybe they're being daring or curious, trying out other porn categories. However, if a person consistently watches it, gets turned on by it...I would question their values and their mental health.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (30 July 2014):

janniepeg agony auntAll actresses are certified to be over 18 or else it would be child pornography. It's promoted as teen because the word teen conjures up images of innocent school girl. Young enough to be cute and submissive but old enough to do it legal. Most 40 year old men would not dream of having sex with an 18 year old in real life, but that does not mean he can't enjoy watching her. I don't think a man by simply watching teen porn means there is something wrong with him. However if that's the only category that can turn him on then I would say so. If he watches so much teen porn that causes dysfunction in his real life, and he can't be turned on by women of his age, then it's not normal.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014):

I think a lot of people are going to agree with you. I feel uneasy about categories of anything that uses "innocence" as something to be exploited, or objectified. I find that very unsettling. I'm not a consumer, or an advocate for porn. I just accept the reality of it, and don't harshly judge people who do like it. Like tastes in anything, to each his own.

It would be hard and unfair to judge him; and say there is anything wrong with him. Only because I can't read his mind, and fairly know what pleasure he derives from it,or how he thinks. The actresses in the videos are not the age they depict; but it is left to the fantasy of the viewer.

I can only agree that I find it really creepy. I might raise an eyebrow, but I'd have to know more about someone to draw any final conclusions. If you're implying pedophilia? Be careful. That's dangerous territory. "Teen" 18-19 is not illegal; but it's pushing it. If you see anything that you know for sure that the subject is not old enough, report it!!!!!!! Chances are, he'll get caught anyway!

I draw the line where innocent children are concerned. Anything under the consensual age of 21, is too young in my personal opinion. Even as a fantasy. It may be acceptable in Europe. It gets dicey in the States. We'd call him a perv.

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