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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): Okay, I just found out that my date is 16, and yes I was a bit shocked, cus she acted and behaved way older, but it still has not changed the way I see her. I truly believe that if two people love each other, age will not be a barrier, but please do not confuse attraction and love, as loving someone is something more than that.I think you just need to give some time knowing this person first, to find out if you two are compatitible for each other. And don't listen to the others who tell you you can't date him, only you will know and I think there is nothing wrong with it.Oh...and be smart...make sure you guys cover up if you guys are to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): i am 15 too, dating a 24 year old.. so, maybe i can help.
first, the LOVE issue. how do you know he isn't using you? i know that sounds hypocritical on my part, but really.. does your boyfriend dedicate time to develop a relationship? does he like your personality? has he ever told you what he likes about you? and for you.. honestly, i dont think you are in love with him. think about how much you need to grow and how important experiencing life as a 15 year old GIRL is. how do you know what love is when you havent been in many serious relationships?
don't rely on him too much, because in your future you'll become dependant of him.
i think right now you should take into consideration all of the important factors that "love" include. do you want to give away your youth to this guy? do you think you can honestly marry him? i think that you shouldn't even be thinking about marriage.
if you DO love him, you guys should take the time to wait. if he loves you, he'll know that taking time is best for you, and that you need time to grow and expand your horizons.
if you dont take a break, i think you will regret it.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Be careful because he could be already attached and using you, i would tell your parents, for your own safety to be honest, i know you may love him but hes way older and probably already has a wife or girlfriend. Be careful, its upto you, but i would try and find someone your own age. =] good luck
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 He sounds like a pedophile.Tell your parents tonight, right now, no waiting.Get them all to meet together.If he really loves you, he will be willing to go to jail for you.-FBK
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reader, Bunnygirl +, writes (16 July 2007):
 My 15 year old friend did this, only with out telling her parents, it was sexual between them I did it at 15 with a 29 year old and i wasnt sexual eith him (i did find out he was married afterwards though) (i dont know if you two are) AT 25 ten yrs older than her- the first thing was i can totally understand why you are into it, it's an older man thing-it's a frill and you consider it great he is interested. My question to her then was, what on earth do you have in common? i'll be honest, it make me sick, He is a "man" yet he can not behave like one and back off til later in your life, be the strong adult and leave it for a while. i dont see it- how it can be what a relationship should be. two differnt stages in life two differnt views with VERY differnt out looks and alot of growth going on between now and when your 20 and then again every experience you have. Do you think maybe you could cool off until you are a bit older and see how it goes before introducing him? it's hard really because as horrible as it sounds and i hate to sound like im putting you down or anything. Do you really think you love him? because at 15 you love most people that show an interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): i have been in your situation but my boyfriend was a little older and we didnt have a sexual relationship until i was over 16. my parents didnt no and found out about it from a 3rd party. i wished i had told them in my own time myself. its very difficult as they will properly hit the roof talk to your boyfiend and invite him over and tell them together or write a letter to them if you cant do it face to face.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 first of all if you did tell your parents - they would not react well, wat they would hear is that their little girl is dating a man almost twice her age! wat this man is doing is illegal and he is taking advantage of your youth. you think you are in love with him but you may be getting love and lust mixed up. your 15 - you need to be doing things with other 15 year olds and i think that you should stop seeing this man. im sorry hun but wat your doing is dangerous and wat he is doing is wrong! if you really love him than you can wait til your older - if you still feel the same way then you can think about dating him. do you mind me asking if you are having a sexual relationship? understand if its private, email me if you wanna talk further and want some advice xxx
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reader, jusd'orange +, writes (16 July 2007):
Reread the first comment, this is the best advice anyone can give. It's important that you want to tell your parents and be responsible. Later in life though, you will be creeped out by the manipulation you went through with this person. He should be dating people his own age that are thinking about marriage; you haven't even finished puberty. He is almost twice your age, it's just wrong. Would you be with a three year old romantically?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): If you find it really hard to tell your parents face-to-face why don't you write them a letter telling them about him and how you feel. I think the reason why you are worried about telling them (i'm assuming) is because you are a minor and he's not plus there's a big age gap between the two of you. You haven't given much info about the relationship. Just make sure that you don't get sexually involved with him until you at least of the legal age otherwise he could end up in huge trouble with the police if he gets caught.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (16 July 2007):
 well its good you know you have to tell your parents. but how you tell them and when you have to pick that one. but i will warn you they are going to be mad, i will put it in a different situration, your best friend told you she was going out with a 27 year old how would you feel, you would want to tell her to be careful and don't do anything she doesn't want to. in mu opinon it is a bit strange but tell your parents you like him. and as long as you haven't had sex with him than they can't have him arrested but he could be in a lot of trouble if he has. but do tell your parents they might even find out some other way and will be angry that you felt you couldn't tell them. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): ok first ask yourself- whats in it for him? this relationship is illegal for one thing and though you feel you love this man he is exploiting you. if you really love him you should look him up in 5 years
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