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writes:How do you know whether a male friend is attracted to you?I have known this particular guy for 15 years. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): i feel like i am in a similar scenario with a boy i work with its very fustrating. Its like we have these coversations and joke all day and he asks about me, and were friends but hes had a girlfriend forever and now hes ENGAGED... so it could always be worse. i dont get these boys and the truth is i dont think they get themselves. i mean if we look at ourselves and in your case, look at your boyfriend, if your happy with him why are you so concerned with this other guy? He's not stealing away your happiness your letting it get to you.
I realize this is an impossible situation all around but if you are also in a relationship i dont think you can be one to condone.
The truth is we know when a guy is interested its like some weird 6th sense, everyone knows. Its in the way they look at you and talk to you and have special smiles for you. Its all about taking action on those feelings that holds us all up.
lol.. im pretty bitter too
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): Frank B Kermit is 100% right.Listen. There are a few scenarios where a man would want to be friends with a woman as he described. The submissive guy is the guy that is always there for his female friend...being understanding, fielding late night crying phone calls. He is doing this because he enjoys the female attention, particularly from an attractive woman. This submissive friend may be passive and just "wait in the wings" for the woman to be available, but he desires her none the less.The more assertive guy may really be compatible with the female friend -- they have good times together -- which is the more dangerous scenario if she's married / in a relationship. This kind of 'friendship' usually involves some level of flirting.I know I'm not the first to say this, but men are NOT 'just' friends with women...there is always at least a small ulterior motive. Especially if he starts doing little 'caring' things. Text messages just to say good morning...cards...things he wouldn't dream of doing for his male friends.I hate to say it, but male / female friendships will never be 100% that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has been my friend since we were 6 yrs old say.
We always played about and flirted when younger. He always came round to see me and my parents regularly.
He has recently gone to uni and come back with a new gilfriend. but makes sure that i hear what he has 'done' with her etc etc. See him with her, but looks kinda embarrassed, awkward and shifty if i am in the presence of him and his girlfriend.
If we are working together he is always stood right by me and somethimes i do catch him starring at me.
What is he playing at?
I have a boyfriend, but have always had something with this other guy, like a weird connection. He shouldnt confuse me like this when i am trying to be happy with my boyfirend.
I just feel totally confused to what i want now!
Help.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 You know he is attracted if he is talking to you...at all.
It is my philosophy that men and women can not really be friends that long. (The When Harry Met Sally rule).
He is either gay, or he would be willing to have sex with you.
Now, as for a relationship, that depends on where he is at in his head. If he is a submissive male that does not get much attention, he will follow the lead of a dominant woman that chooses him. If he gets plenty of female attention, then it is about you being able to address his emotional needs including the lifestyle he wants supported.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 I think your question is whether this guy is attracted to you or not. Could you give us some more information about what he's done?
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