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51-59,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I broke up after 9 months because he was fooling around with a married woman he works with. I also work for the same place. It's been a few weeks now and I have made no contact but it's hard seeing both of them at work when there is a meeting in my building. What I don't understand and she goes out of her way to walk by me, check her phone while she stands by my office, finding excuses to walk by. Is she waiting for a reaction? Is she waiting for me to say something? She always has a sarcastic smile when I look at her but I refuse to acknowledge her. I don't get it, does she just want to be noticed?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 Ask your lawyer how the following comment might be taken:
Her: (smiling)
You: Hi (name), how are your husband (or husbandS if you feel nasty)
Her: fine
You: Your sure?
Set this up as your regular greeting to her, and I doubt if she will keep coming around. Her fear of her husband finding out might be enough to deter her...but make sure it will not be taken as a threat first.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (30 June 2007):
She is using you to feel better about herself. Emotionally speaking, you are doing yourself a disservice if you stay at that job. Look into the sexual harassment and other work harassments laws in your area. You might have a case. She is going out of her way to get your attention.
See a lawyer before you say anything, as there are certain things you could say, and certain things you shouldn't say.
Once you know where the boundaries are, THEN, you can formulate a proper "greeting".
I think it is impossible to ignore someone that refuses to leave you alone.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, dollparts +, writes (30 June 2007):
 ignor her! all she wants is a reaction! shes childish doing this rise above her I agree with the other aunts =)
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Just wait till she walks past your desk again look up at her and smile and just say are you alright.
She sounds very childish and neither of them are worth it they are the scum of the earth and they will get their commupence.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): If she's going out of her way to do these nasty things to you, she's probably threatened by you. It's actually a compliment that she tries so hard to bring you down and that gives you the upper hand. She sounds like a nasty, competitive person with a dark heart and karma will surely catch up with her.If it were me (vengeful person that I am), I would do everything I could to be in a great mood at work and look happy and start giving her little smug smiles, like I know something she doesn't. I'd plant little seeds that I'm back with him and give him secret little smiles at the meetings they're both at. Since they both are cheaters it'll make her completely paranoid and she won't believe him. I'd also give her husband a call. But that's just me! You can also just ignore her and give her friendly smiles whenever she pulls that crap.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 June 2007):
 She's only trying to make you jealous, her smug smile is saying "I've got him and you haven't". My advice to you is to let her have him. If she can cheat on her husband like that and your ex can cheat on with with "someone else's woman" then they deserve each other! You deserve much better! Forget about him hun and move on and find someone who is much more deserving of you.
Eve
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