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female
age
30-35,
*o_in_love
writes:Right, I've still got a problem with the lad I've previously left a question about, but this isn't about him now..I went on holiday last week and slept with three people whilst there. I used protection with all except for one, who, unknown to me at the time, took of the condom before we did it. I went mad at him after. Even though I've come on I'm still worried I could be pregnant.. Or that I could have an STI. Also, I don't want the lad I refered to in a previous question to find out about this, I still love him, and it would kill me if he knew.I don't know what to do anymore, I always think this sort of stuff will help me get over him. But it never does. I really think I need help. Thanks xx
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reader, love-him +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Babe sex isnt the way chick!! You need to go to either a GUM clinic, or some doctors provide all the test for STIs or a Brook (tests for chlamydia and ghonorhia) and Family Planning Clinics.. You just need to make sure you dont have an STI and worst of all, make sure you dont have HIV. you still could be pregnant.. if he took the condom off before even entering you, even though you are on a period, there is still the strong chance. Get to a doctor or what i said.. now babe mail me if u want to talk x x x x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 What Daniel Said. Good response.
-FBK
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Yes, dear, you need help. That's why we're here.
Sex is not the way to get over someone you are "so_in_love". This is because sex, in itself, is not love. I'm sure you know this very well now that you were with three guys you don't love.
For me, the right way to get over someone is to start living a life where that someone plays no role. I'm sure you were able to live happy before you met this guy; well, that means you can live happy after him, too. I don't know what your previous question was about, but, whatever the reason, what you need is to understand, with your mind, that your thing with the other guy is over; and then to accept, with your heart, that, yes, it's over. That takes time and hurts like hell, but this is the way you need to go if you truly want to get a grip of yourself.
So many people get into relationships with others just to forget the previous one. I don't have a figure on this, but I'm sure that most of the time what happens is that you just hurt the other person, the one you didn't show respect for by using him/her to forget the one you did care about.
In your case, my dear, people won't care if you're hurting. Your reputation will suffer. And, as you rightly recognize, you could catch a disease or become pregnant. That is no good for someone as young as you. Everyone has problems and pain; should we bring serious problems on us for that reason? No, we'll always be better off if the only problem we have is heart break.
Sometimes people who want to give you true advice need to be hard. How do you think these three guys see you? I'm sure no one among them would respect your feelings. I don't think they even know, but, for them, you were just someone available. I don't think this is what you deserve.
Sex is a wonderful thing, but it's no tool to get over someone.
Take care. We're all around if you need more help.
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