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writes:I cant explain how i feel... I want to have sex but i am only 14 and i cant masterbate because it isnt satisfying what should i do? Plus i have very persistant urges that make me super horny. Im so confused!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 April 2008):
 As "LonelyTwo" suggests, exploring your sexuality through masturbation will help you learn much about your body and its pleasure spots. And I must stress it is much wiser, safer and reasonable that an underage woman learn to relieve her sexual tension via masturbation than by engaging in heterosexual intercourse.
So, in hope that better instruction here might deter much more risky behavior, at least until proper age and maturity has been achieved, herewith are 10 female masturbation suggestions that should aid self-exploration and may ultimately bring about orgasm:
1. Arrange plenty of time when you will have privacy, undisturbed and will be comfortable, preferably following a warm bath. At that point you might also experiment with a steady stream of warm water from a faucet or hose in your private areas.
2. Following the bath, perhaps with soothing music playing, either sit in a chair, on a sofa or lay comfortably in bed, slowly moving your hands over your body and thinking sensual thoughts. Massage breasts, torso, thighs and gradually work toward the vulva (female genital area).
3. Beginning with your palms, firmly press and slowly massage the mound area above the vulva and clitoris (mons pubis) using a circular motion until a warm feeling begins. Gradually move your hand or hands over the whole vulva area when desired, beginning with a light touch, followed by slow, more firm massage with the palm(s) and flat fingers until a warm feeling increases. This usually means that arterial circulation is increasing in the area.
4. At this point you might want to apply a water-based lubricant to your hand(s), or apply an ample amount of saliva. Do not use any kind of oil or oily product which is not good for this location.
5. Using the flat fingers or palms of both hands, press firmly along the sides of the vulva, on either side of the labia (lips) and add a slow circular motion.
Then, part the lips and slowly explore up and down with light touches, gradually increasing exploration with moist fingertips. Add pressure at times and include circular motions with slow strokes, but avoid the clitoral area. You may include light pinches to the lips, and vary with other motions. Use moist fingertips to stroke up and down between the lips.
6. When pleasurable feelings increase, spread more and use two or three fingertips to massage the vaginal opening with a slow, circular motion. Insertion with one or more fingers may follow when vaginal stimulation is desired. Remember to stay relaxed and breathe deeply while thinking pleasurable thoughts.
7. If and when arousal has increased, begin to give attention to the clitoral area, first by pressing the palm and use a slow circular motion. Add saliva or moisture to fingertips and gradually explore around the clitoral bud (glans) however it feels pleasurable.
8. At some point, it may become comfortable to apply moist fingertips more directly to the glans. Spread the hood (around and above) with the fingers of one hand while massaging and stroking the clitoris with the other hand or fingers. Alternate with other motions or vaginal insertions as desired. Some women enjoy a fast sideways or up and down motion at times.
9. If and when a higher state of arousal occurs, two fingers of one hand may be inserted into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot, located about two to three inches inside to the front of the vagina. Feel for a bump, small mound or slightly textured area. With the fingertips inserted and slightly curled, stroke and rub the G-spot area while using the other fingertips to massage and rub the clitoris. Continue thinking sexual or sensual thoughts. Pleasurable feelings may be increased by slightly closing or lowering the legs while still allowing access to the vulva.
10. All during the process, make mental note of the areas, spots and motions providing the greatest pleasures, and repeat as desired. As the pleasure zones are explored and learned, a vibrator, dildo or stream of warm water (in the bath) may provide additional pleasures. Learn what pleases most, and these techniques can someday be shared with a sexual partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I agree with LonelyTwo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply! It helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Keep practicing with the hand, it is safer. Just relax, close your eyes and think about your boyfriend as you practice, try using some ky jely, or take a warm bath.
The urgent feelings is probably hormones, and having sex provides no guarantee that you'll be satisfied, so practicing on your own will help you learn about your body.
Hold off on sex for a few years and read up on posible diseases and pregnancies you can get.
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