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writes:If a guy and a girl go out on a first date and he then asks her to be his gf and she says yes, then he asks to have sex with her (on the first date!), do you think its fair to say he probably is only really looking for sex and if he doesn't get it sometime soon he'll probably dump her? Reply to this Question
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Baby Duck said it all! his/her advice is key to having a good relationship. sex should not come unless you both are truly ready for it and when you both agree it is the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA male reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008):- thats fair enough I guess. My ex bf did ask me how long I waited before having sex with bf before him (only guy i had had sex with) and i told him 6 months. I told him that it might not be that long with me and him, but it could be and it could be longer, you just cant predict how quick a relationship will develop, how quick trust will be built and so on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): I'd be willing to wait half a year before sleeping with a girl, IF that was her normal pattern in dating.
But if waiting a long time is not how she's been doing things in the past then I'm not gonna wait it out. I'm not waiting for two months if I know her previous BFs didn't have to wait two weeks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah i think you must of read another anon thing, im a female.
Thanks for the link, that was pretty interesting to read. In particular I found it interesting that it said "Italians think there wives, sisters, and mothers are all madonna's or virgins." My ex bf is italian...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAsk oldersister- you're confused by my sex?? im confused now :S
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 In my opinion, you did good. You wanted more from a relationship than just sex, but that was really all that this guy and his words and actions indicated, so your good sense proved valuable and now you can simply seek or wait for a young man of greater value. It will happen within a reasonable time. Do not be in a big hurry because you have a long life ahead of you, and will have ample opportunity to find a mate who will love and truly appreciate all who you are. Be happy and be patient to encounter the lover that will make you really happy. Best wishes.
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (9 April 2008):
it can be hard to find a guy who does not want a relationship based on sex. but.. in your situation it is VERY obvious that he wants to have a girlfriend for pleasing his sexual matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAsk oldersister- madonna/whore complex?
A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008):- thats pretty amazing but i guess your intentions were good/admirable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): All 4 of my long-term relationships were females I had sex with the very first day/date. They lasted, but not in the exact order.....3 years, 5 years, 5 years and my current relationship......11 years this August!
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Oh yeah, they will surprise you all right. Although Ive always heard how catholic school girls are the craziest ones? Atleast you are out of the relationship and didnt fall for his begging or "good boy" portrayl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe said he couldnt handle a relationship at this point in time. He said he wanted to be single for a while...so probably wanted to have sex with all the girls he liked?? I am glad hes gone, its just hard to believe thats the type of guy he was because he tried to portray this perfect catholic boy image to eveyrone. I mean his bedroom was covered in all these religous statues and paintings, its hard to believe that someone who seems to have such a dedication to their religion could be like that.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (9 April 2008):
So he dumped you? What was his reason? Once again, I do not know the guy so it's hard for me to say. But by constantly asking for it, it makes him sound pathetic and embarrassing to be honest. And you shouldnt want to hear some guy begging for sex all the time anyway. It's sad... So its safe to say that was all the wanted. Be glad hes gone. And like BabyDuck said, its better to have a guy who wants an emotional connection with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell he stuck around for about one month after that. We never had sex...so I can't help but feel thats all he wanted. He constatnly kept asking for sex too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): No way to say for sure what he wants. Lots of guys especially younger guys will try for sex if they think they have even a shot at it. If you want to know if he really cares about you and not just about sex, its easy enough to find out-just say no. Tell him you have no intention of having sex. If thats what he wants you'll be cutting your losses pretty quickly.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (9 April 2008):
My answer to your question, "Is he only really looking for sex?" would be:
Very likely in this case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): I agree, he only has one thing on his mind: sex!
This is very rude to be asking on the first, second ... 10th date. I never asked a girl I was seeing until I felt a real connection between us, and the feeling was mutual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Any guy who asks someone to be his girlfriend on a fitst date is a bloody weirdo. Any guy who asks for a lay on a first date is likely only after a lay. Either way, he sounds like the type worth avoiding.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (9 April 2008):
Hmm I dont know the guy so I hate to assume, but from past experiences I would have to say yes. Its easy to find out. Dont have sex on the first night and see how long he will stick around. Say you would rather wait. If he cares about you he will wait until you are ready. If you have already done it and hes still around, there is your answer.
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