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writes:hi. i need help. i recently started dating again after a year of being single. i was in an abusive relationship.i mean it started physicaly,then mentally then went to emotional abuse. my spirit was not broken though. i Thank God that i still believe in love. my new man is so different from all the other men i have dated.he is sweet,shy,funny. he is sexy to my eyes. i think this could go far but my problem is that i dont want to rush things since it has been 4yrs since i had sex, but this man turns me on so much with just a simple look. what should i do?he respects me so much, im scared if i go there he would loose that respect. how long should i wait before i say we can go there? we have only been dating for 2 weeks, we see each other almost everyday. he really turns me on. a lot of men have tried to get in to my pants and many are still trying, but i want him and im in love with him.guide me please
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Wait at least two or three months. I'd say three, but that's my personal pref.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 It seems to me that two to three weeks of dating in America is a reasonable time to begin going sexual these days, providing all things have been going well. In my experience, a third date has been about the average time most gals have been ready. Guys are typically ready anytime, but of course there are still plenty of folks around who want to hold off until marriage or at least a lot longer periods of time.
Your boyfriend sounds like the right kind of man for you, but it's probably hard to know whether a fellow will disappear after sex, lose respect or stick around for more. As for myself, I like to come back for more, but some men are what I call "conquest hounds" who stupidly go around wanting one night stands.
My recommendation would be to let him take the lead. When he is ready, he should start becoming more sexually intimate with you. Your response is up to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): I know how you feel. just ths sound of my guys voice on the phone turns me on so much!!! it's ok to want to have sex . He will still respect you . Especailly if he wants it as badly as you do:)
ask him about it and see where it goes
i hope this helped
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