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writes:with most of the girls ive been with, after i slept with them they developed intense emotional feelings even when we weren't close to intimate prior to the events. so my question is this, why do women bring such sentiment and emotion into the bedroom? why can't they just leave it at the door? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): Read "Why MEn DOn't Listen and Women can't read Maps" and all your questions on male/female differences will be answered...a lot of women can't separate sex and affection/emotion, it's just how the brain is wired. Men on the other hand, can easily separate the two, and can have meaningless, mindless sex to their heart's content. That's why they say a man has sex, while a woman makes love. There's a big difference. Maybe when you first meet a woman you should tell her that you only want no-strings-attached meaningless, mindless sex, just so she knows where the two of you stand afterward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): A lot of women tend to get attached to their sex partners right off. It's natural. And a lot of men tend to have bad feelings about their GF's past sex life.It's all just brain chemistry. There's some gender difference involved too. Each side can't understand the other side's viewpoint. Each side usually thinks the other side is just being difficult, instead of trying to understand that we're all dealing with BUILT-IN emotions that don't obey logic and commands.
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reader, Ah-ha  +, writes (2 September 2008):
And just for the record, I have slept with a man who fell in love right away and wanted everything too soon. I slept with one who started to fall in love, but I was moving away and it didn't make any sense to keep a long distance relationship at the early stages. I also slept with one who just wanted to go out, have fun and have sex! Your question irked me, I found it came across as arrogant in a men-folk vs. women-folk kind of way (and it sounded as though in your head the men-folk won). People are different, take them as you meet them, not as their 'group.'
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): I completely agree with DiovanLestat on everything that she said. I have slept with one who fell in love right away and wanted me too soon. I slept with one who started to fall in love, but looked at reality and held back and allowed me the time that I needed to determine what I wanted. I've been with her for 29 years. I also slept with one who just wanted to go out, have fun and sleep with someone who was good to her. She didn't want a lasting relationship at all. We were all in our mid 30s at the time and divorced, so maybe age and circumstances made the difference.
Sex is good with just about anyone, but as Diovan said, it is best with someone who you have some emotional feelings for. You don't have to want to marry her but it is better if there is some connection there. One night stands are the worst. At least that is what me and my wife found out. You screw, that's it. The screwing is fun, but it is an empty feeling afterwards. I think this is true for both men and women.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 September 2008):
 I'll agree completely with "Aunty Em." When a girl allows you to enjoy her intimacy, she is giving a lot to you. It is, or should be, an emotional and meaningful experience for both partners. If you find a female who feels absolutely no sentiment toward you after a sexual encounter, then you were with a true slut in my opinion. Again, in my opinion, sexuality is not, or should not be just sport - it should be meaningful and nurturing for those involved. For one, I have always been very fond of every woman with whom I made love, and they would agree today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Because women aren't like men.....
Actually women are all different just like men. You want causual sex, but you are sleeping with women who are looking to settle down. Try sleeping with different women, find women who don't ever want to see you again. Or find someone who you feel intense feelings for and then you too can find loving feelings for someone you adore. Sex in a loving relationship is much nicer than the clinical emotionless sex you seem to prefer.
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reader, Marlie +, writes (1 September 2008):
Yep, what the anonymous person below me said. It's how women are wired, I think it's like, one of those pre-wired evolutional behavioural or whatever things that sorta makes sense but not really.If a woman has sex with a man, her body doesn't really know what contraception is, even if her brain does. So it assumes she may have conceived your kid and put this behaviour in place that creates a bond with you, to keep you in the picture so that you can provide for the thing that's growing inside her, instead of her letting you go off and leave her to fend for herself and the baby. Even though, it actually probably isn't because you were wearing protection [I hope hehe].
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): it's all chemical...go to google and type "why woman get attached after sex" and you'll see
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (1 September 2008):
 Sex is an intimate and emotional thing. Why shouldn't they?
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