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writes:a guy i had slept with accused me of giving him chlamydia when we had sex last week. he told me he had been checked up and had it..so i went to get checked out, but am still awaiting the results. he told another guy i had slept with that he should get checked out cos i was spreading it, which i thought was very unfair as he has slept with other people himself and so cant be sure it was from me in the first place.however, the guy he told to get checked out told me that the original guy told him that he hasnt even been checked out himself. this means he just had symptoms and has presumed it is chlamydia. although i am very worried that i have passed it on to other people (even if it is curable) , i am now thinking that perhaps the symptoms he was experiencing were simply that of thrush, as i got thrush the day after having sex with him, which has cleared up now. of course i am hoping it is thrush and will just have to wait for my results! are the symptoms for male thrush and chlamydia similar, and therefore he could have made a mistake?!? and also, how long after getting chlamydia will symptoms show? if any at all, as i know it is quite common to have no symptoms. also, i am very upset that he has gone round telling people, as the other guy i slept with heard about it through a friend. i do not want it getting spread round that i am passing it on, as there is yet no evidence i even have it! is there anyway i can stop this? and how long will it take for my test results to come in? a lot of questions a know..but any advice on chlamydia, particularly that in men, and my situation, will be much appreciated! :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Congratulations honey, I'm so happy for you, that must feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. But as I said, I'm actually glad that all of this has happened. Mistakes come and mistakes go, but hard lessons are learnt that you will remember for the rest of your life. No lecture from me, you don't need it. :^)
But like Tish has said, find some better friends. Good Luck, Take Care of you always, Blessings. I am so happy for you.
PS: Ignore judgemental people, they will make their own mistakes in life, and will have to eat their words. :^)
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Great news girl! And "Tisha-1" has a good suggestion to steer clear of that guy and others who may have spread rumors about you. Best wishes.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 September 2008):
 I'm so happy to hear that you are clear. I hope that the links I gave you were helpful, and that you'll continue to protect your health.
And give the guy who is obviously lying and spreading rumors about you a wide berth. He's got something wrong with him if he thinks this is amusing or somehow a good way to get revenge.
Take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh and again for the girl who thinks its ok to be judgmental..i got the results back and turned out i never had anything..the guy was obviously making it all up..so u can shut up about me spreading 'skanky' diseases.
again thanks for everyones help..it means a lot to me as this was a very difficult situation for me and im just glad everything turned out ok in the end. i have learnt alot from the situation. sorry its taken so long to reply..was just waiting on the results. :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Hi babes,
Thank you for your reply, I actually needed a good laugh... Anyway, I know your worried about this and I know your worried about peoples reaction. But I am actually feeling very pleased with the whole situation, and I'm glad everyone is actually speaking out. Like Tish says, it dosen't matter who gave what to who. I'm just pleased that everyone is honest enough to talk abou this, and you are going to the clinic to get yourself tested and get some medication to sort this out. A lot of people keep STD's quiet and they don't tell the other people who may be involved. But you and these guys have been honest, you have all been brave and therefore at least with you three, the chain is broken, and the infection will not be passed on.
Every cloud has a silver lining. Sometimes the symptoms don't show up, and if nobody had told you, you may have been in big trouble, and might never have found out untill you were trying to have a child. Chlamydia effects a woman's fertility, if you don't treat it quickly, then you might not be able to have children. All three of you made a mistake, but your sensible enough to sort it out.
Don't worry about your reputation too much, life is long, and memories are short. You made a mistake put your putting it right, there are tons of people who don't even bother. It might help, when things cool down and after you go to the doctor to go to this guy and try to talk to him. You could say something like has been told to you here. That nobody knows who gave it to who, but it's been caught quickly and everyone has learnt a big lessons about condoms that they will remember for life... I hope that makes you feel a little bit more easy about the whole thing....
Otherwise, tell him that AID's and HIV are worse and that "he who is without sin throw the first stone".... Everyone had a duty to protect themself and everyone failed not only you, so nobody or everybody is at fault...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionohh ive got a good idea..maybe you could learn to be less judgmental! for all you know they could be the only people ive EVER slept with..think your probably on the wrong website if they're the kind of comments your passing. grow up you silly little girl.
but thanks to all the other answers..much appreciated! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): Maybe you should learn how to use a condom? It would stop anyone accusing you of spreading some skanky disease... Or u could sleep with less people, that would help too.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 August 2008):
DoubleM is right about how long symptoms of Chlamydia take to appear. I believe it is as soon as 5-10 days. I'm not an expert, so I have a few weblinks for you to read and do your own research on. I hope they help!
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/chlamydia-4266.htm
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/chlamydia
http://women.webmd.com/5-common-symptoms-of-a-yeast-infection
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/east-central-illinois/vaginal-infection-testing-treatment-2388.htm
I think that I'm correct in assuming that 'thrush' is meant to indicate a vaginal yeast infection. 'Thrush' in the US is a yeast infection in the mouth. I could be wrong, but it seem useful to be clear about this.
I have to ask, have you been using condoms? If you and your partners are sexually active with a number of people, and are not using condoms, then essentially, you all are exposing each other to all the various infections any one of you could have. It's like you're sleeping with everyone the guy has ever slept with.
From what I can understand, using condoms greatly reduces your chances of contracting chlamydia. It also seems that it would reduce the chances of spreading a yeast infection. So please, if you have not been using them, start. You're exposing yourself to all kinds of nasties if you don't, and you're putting your health and even your life at risk. Lecture over.
So from what I've read, the guy should count back 7 to 21 days from the day he got the symptoms, if it is chlamydia, to even begin to identify the 'culprit'. Again, if everyone is sleeping around, it could be anyone of them. It could even be traced back to one of the men that a previous partner of his slept with. Think of it as a chain reaction. It doesn't start by spontaneous generation, it's been being passed around for generations. The strains may have mutated, but there is an unbroken chain of sexual partners going back generations. From A (male) to B (female) onto C (male) to D (female) and on and on.
The good news is that it sounds like it is easily treatable, provided you take and COMPLETE the antibiotic regimen prescribed. That is if you have it, of course. I would expect the results to be back in a week, but again, I'm not an expert on this.
Good luck, and if it turns out you do not have chlamydia, you can proudly broadcast to the world. If you do have chlamydia, I think it's fair to say that it's probably a toss up as to who infected whom. In the end, does it really matter, because the infection can be hidden in men, and also women. This kind of thing happens if you have multiple partners, and that goes for HIM as well as for you.
Take care!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 August 2008):
Although I have never contracted chlamydia, I know that the symptoms rarely show up before a week, usually longer. Some discharge is often the first symptom for both genders, then additional things like pain may occur. Some folks have no obvious symptom for a good while. Untreated, it can become rather serious in women, less serious in men, but always should be cured with antibiotics. It is bacterial. Thrush is a fungus infection, noted by a white coating on the tongue and sometimes a cold sore at the corner of the lips. A common treatment prescribed by doctors is Nystatin, which may or may not prove effective. It can be sexually transmitted, but is also a common result of treatment with strong antibiotics. Thus, antibiotic treatment for chlamydia could possibly lead to thrush. I recommend that you search the CDC Web site for additional information.
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