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writes:okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said yes is untrue! young girls at just 20! are going for operations to have parts of their private parts cut off so men dont bully her! she put herself through pain for 3 months so her vagina looked better cos she got bullied as a teenager! so basicly, i just thought id ask on here.. do men actually care about what a vagina looks like? do they have to be like the magz, tucked in etc.. will a man turn around and tell their girlfriend to get stuffed if they dont like the way her vagina looks?! please answer with all your opinions! thankyou.
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reader, malealpha  +, writes (13 March 2013):
I think there are "guys" out there, me being one, that has an appreciation for a "fine looking vagina" that resembles a "Rose Bud" when they see one! However, all guys spend about nine months waiting to be born and come "OUT" of one and the rest of their lives trying to get back "IN" one, and that's a fact, Jack! Funny how that works! Under those circumstances, the greater majority don't care what it 'looks' like! Now, I don't know about 'why' a woman would be "bullied" because of how her vagina 'looks' or what you mean by having the vagina "stuffed"? I do understand about what you mean when you say " private parts cut off"! The vagina vulva has 'inner lips' called the labia minor and 'outer lips' called the labia major. The vagina is on a 'mound' called the "Mount of Venus". For some women, these lips can be quite large and even hang down considerably, either singularly or in combination? It can cause 'entry' problems for sexual intercourse or for 'looks' again. A Nip/Tuck procedure by a plastic surgeon can correct this issue. Usually, this is done as a women's choice, not a man's. The term "Rose Bud" in describing a woman's vagina in a flattering way was 'coined' by the late actor Orson Wells in the movie "Citizen Kane" (it had to be Hollywood, right?) when "lovingly" referred to his wife's vagina's 'nickname' as "ROSE BUD"! And, now, you know the rest of the story!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): I know it is not popular to say so, but at least some guys do care. I think there are some vulvas which are inviting and some which are not. Just like some people have pretty faces or lovely voices and others don't. In a relationship, it would not matter at all, but if you are just interested in sex, it is a different thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): By the time it comes around to looking anywhere near that area. All the blood is gone from the top head and is at a different head. They don't care, they just want in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen i say she had her private parts cut off, i mean she had parts of her down below chopped off to please someone else! like Emilyanswers says, she had plastic surgery on her vagina! but i didnt mension anything about "gettin vagina stuffed", i said, if a guy didnt like what a womans vagina looked like would he get her to get stuffed, :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Reminded of a joke.
Father talking to his son.
"Dad, what does a vagina look like before sex"
"Like a beautiful rose bud, about to burst open moist with dew.
"And after sex?"
"Well, have you ever seen a bulldog eat mayonaise?"
There are lots of things people feel insecure about and some will prey on that, this girl you are talking about made the mistake of going with an asshole. It doesn't matter how she looked, that type of person always finds something to critize because picking on others makes them feel better about themselves.
On the whole, vulva's (vagina's you rarely see) are not there to be looked at to closely as works of arts. That is what boobs are for.
Sure, in the course of sex you probably be spending some time with the vulva in close-up but on the whole its looks don't matter as much as what it is. Do you care if piece of chocolate is shaped like a diamond or a random blob of brown goo? Off course not.
Men look at vulva because of what it is, not how it actually looks.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Most guys wouldnt tell a cosmetically enhanced one from a normal one. They dont peer at it with a microscope and are more interested in getting inside it than looking at it!! Ok im gonna share here and Im sober!!! I have one 'lip' much larger than the other and I have had noooo complaints, comments, comparisons or problems. Im blushing now but who cares!!!! x
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (4 September 2008):
 My friend "baby duck," I believe that you understand that I'm not at all thin-skinned about anything, so I absolutely do not feel that you was criticizing my thought rather than simply offering your own valued opinion. I highly respect all your input and I think that you know that. You provide great advice to our readers.
We are simply offering our varied opinions here, and all advisors are hopefully providing a degree of truthful, unbiased and valuable info to those who seek such advice and opinions. So, we simply offer some of our experience to help if we can. We only have our experiences and feelings. I think that we do a very good job overall and true, I have never "seen" one that I did not think was just wonderful.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 I don't think people will find me odd if I say that the first reaction a vagina causes in a man is a desire to have sex :-). Whether it looks "good" or "bad" would be the second or third idea, maybe, and I agree with Double M that we men wouldn't really care about how it looks. Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes. Once I saw one that looked particularly pretty and praised the girl for it. It doesn't mean I didn't like the others.
I also agree with Baby Duck, that men sometimes do not feel comfortable saying words like "vagina" or "vulva". I think it happens to most people. We prefer to say "down there", the "private parts", and other euphemisms, instead of using the right words, because using those means we're talking openly about them and they are not taboo.
I also agree with Diovan. It never occurred to me that someone would do plastic surgery on vaginas for a reason other than, perhaps, severe burns or accidents. I don't think it's a body part you should "modify" just to conform to who-knows-who's idea of what a "beautiful vagina" is.
So, dear poster, though I think it would be your business only and none of mine, if you want my opinion, I think you shouldn't even consider having vaginal plastic surgery. It doesn't seem like you want one, but, don't worry about what guys will think, either. Most likely, a guy will be thinking about sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): Guys don't care. Men love almost everything about women, breasts, butts and yes, vaginas in every shape and form, but the ones he loves the most belongs to the woman he loves. LOL.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (4 September 2008):
Ok, well my friend and the eminent advisor "baby duck" may somewhat take me to task for using the term "vulva" rather than vagina for the overall visual look of a woman's sexual apparatus. It's just much more accurate - although snatch, muff, box, grab, ho, carpet and the other colloquial terms that she mentioned may be more popularly used. No problem, but I stand by my main thought that most men, at least in the older generations, spend little to zero time evaluating or judging the appearance of this particular and lovely female feature. In my opinion, women should not worry about it in the least- unless they plan to pose for Playboy Magazine - and even such exposure is apparently airbrushed and manipulated. Please be assured that the vast majority of men cherish and appreciate their lovers and care little about the thing's general appearance.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Thanks Emilyanswers for explaining.
Now I want to watch that! I also want to know why in the world this woman would even do that? AHH!
I used to think that a woman would cut the hair for aesthetic/hygene reasons, but this woman got TOOOOOOOOOOOOOO far.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (4 September 2008):
 most guys are lucky to even see a vagina letalone have an opinion on how they look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): Oh stuff thanks babes, I can't believe I missed it again.. For anyone that's interested it's on British TV, channel 4, a documentary called "The Perfect Vagina".. I'm gonna see if they got it online, I really want to watch why any woman would do such a thing. Plastic surgery on vagina's, where will all this end...
Here's the relevant links....
http://www.channel4.com/health/microsites/G/g-spot/perfect-vagina/index.html
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reader, starismine1 +, writes (4 September 2008):
 if a guy is really into you and enjoys sex with you, and is in love with you, he will find every part of you appealing, including that part. And this goes for other parts of your body as well. When a guy is critical of any part of your body, vagina, facial hair, blemishes, your hair, your weight...it is not about your physical looks, it is about his need to criticize you on a physical level to have control over you. Some men focus on the part of the anatomy which you are calling the vagina because they find when its shaved, its a turn on, but that isn't about finding it attractive or ugly, it's about wanting you to "undress it" more.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 September 2008):
I just watched that!!
Psy cookie, she meant exactly as she said, getting your labia, lips and other bits either plumped up or chopped off.
As for my opinion, I think that it's varied... some guys are going to be picky about it and some won't.
It's exactly the same as some guys who will expert you to have big perfect boobs and no fat.
The decent ones won't care. It's just more important than ever to really get to know a guy and make sure he is decent before you let him go down there.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (4 September 2008):
Most of the general population of men rarely see an actual vagina, which medically is the canal beyond the "vaginal opening" that forms a primary portion of a woman's reproductive system. Generally speaking , it requires the special spreading tools used medically by gynecologists to view much of a vagina beyond the opening. While I do not mean to mince words or seem overly tedious, I think that it would be important to correctly identify the more visible portions of a woman's genitals which I think you really mean.
The proper term would be the vulva, which usually refers to the more visible parts, including the two labia (lips), the mentioned opening, the clitoral bud (glans) and bulb, some of the clitoral shaft, the urethra, the perineal sponge and the mons pubis (the mound area above the clitoris). To cut to the chase, in my opinion, most men are fascinated by the whole structure no matter what its looks and are always happy to see one. Even if the labia are a bit large or protruding, most of us could not care less.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (4 September 2008):
No, I think that guys are more interested in getting one.
"Tucked in vagina"? And please, explain yourself by "getting vagina stuffed" and having "private parts cut off?
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