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writes:Sorry for bringing this up again on here but..Broke up with my girlfriend of over a year two months ago because she 'fell in love with somone else' and was cheating on me. Earlier this week I find out that after we broke up, she began hooking up with somone else, not the original guy she fell in love with, but another kid who i know aswell, a couple weeks later. The reason I bring this up is because we spoke a while back and she said 'she still has feelings for me, blah blah, hasn't been with anyone, wants to still be friends' all that crap and now i hear this.First off, I do not plan on getting back together with her, nor do i want to associate with her. After what she did to me I just can't. She split with me because for a 3 month period I was working 70 hours a week to pay for school and we were only on the phone at night and seeing each other on weekends. She claims she fell in love with somone else at her work during that period. What I told her was 'well when i was working i met and worked with girls too, yet I valued our love and experiences more, so anyone i was meeting was just a friend and never was/could be anything more.' She claims she never physically cheated on me, but i believe 'falling in love' with somone involves some form of physical connection, and regardless, emotional cheating is sometimes even worse. Plus how the hell can I trust her word anyways?My issue is, because of our activities I see her once a week, every week. This will continue for atleast another 6 - 7 months. So I have to be semi-civil towards her. Should I bring up that I found this out? Even though we were seperated at the time I still think its kinda messed up how somone can switch emotionally that quickly. This has been bothering me the last couple days so I am really leaning towards telling her somthing along the lines of 'hey i heard about this, what do you have to say' and seeing what happens. What sucks is I still have feelings for her, but I realize, after asking people on here for help and getting responses, which i'm thankful for by the way, that eventually I'll meet somone else who will show me the same love, trust, and commitment that I gave. What should I do?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Some will be faithful, some will not be faithful. The younger you are, and they are, the less likely you can be assured.
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