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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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Is there something going on between them
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Chances are that he likes her on some level. That bei... (read in full...)
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I love her too much to let her go!
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A. 20 May 2010: Unfortunately you have to let her go. There is the tiny glimmer of hope that you've planted a seed that may get her thinking about you in a different light, but like the others said, you're going to have to let her go.... (read in full...)
Will he break up with me if we don't have sex?
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Whenever we have sex, it ends up hurting her physically. What can I do?
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A. 20 May 2010: I don't know what to tell you other than to go slowly and gently. It seems like you're doing all you can, but the best thing you can do is give her body time to adjust. The vagina is made to pass a baby, so unless you're bigger around then that, ... (read in full...)
This has made me question my sexual preferences!
Q. Hi i'm in a bit of a dilemma, i'm 17 years old and female and i can't stop obsessing over this thing that happened. Well one day i went over to my friends house like just to see how she was cus she had been ill the past couple of days. As i went in ...
A. 20 May 2010: Well, you may want to come clean and tell her you saw her. Maybe see if she wants to try something. She may be weirded out, but if you can't talk to your best friend about this, then who can you talk to? You may not be gay, but you may be. I'd ... (read in full...)
He wants me to do sexual things and I don't want to.
Q. My boyfriend found out that i have had sexual activities in the past, and he wants me to do sexual things with him. I don't want to, but I feel bad not doing anything because I know he reallyy wants it! I feel horny at times, but when it actually ...
A. 20 May 2010: Definitely don't let yourself get pressured into anything. You are really too young for this anyway. Give it time. If he waits, great, if not, then that's his loss. Don't let him guilt you with your past. You can even go as far as to say, "What ... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend likes anal does this mean he might be gay?
Q. I have been dating my bf for about 8 months and he is super sweet. A few nights ago while we were just cuddling watching a movie out of new where he ask me if I would try anal sex , he has done it before with his ex gf and said he really liked it. I ...
A. 20 May 2010: Probably not gay, just watches porn too much. I have no idea if it hurts or how it feels because I've never had it, but with how common it is in porn, that is likely where he got the idea.
A couple of tips if you do try it:
-Go slowly and u... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I went crazy.
Q. To whom it may concern One month ago, my boyfriend broke up with me, the reason why for him was: I went too crazy. He wouldn't listen to me. Before the break-up, He was very busy lately, no time for me, He tried making time for me but when we were...
A. 20 May 2010: It's done, time to move on. 500 pounds is a good size chunk of cash, so hopefully he will pay you back. The constant texting/on the phone thing is very rude. I can understand why you were annoyed.
To me, it sounds like the communic... (read in full...)
Should a girl always breathe in a rythmic way or scream when she orgasms?
Q. when a girl cums does she breathe in a rythimic way or screams?and is it a must for every girl to behave this way?and if she doesnt what should she do?...
A. 20 May 2010: Yup, no rules about it, just do your thing. Here is one thing that I've found though. Breathing and maybe some moaning can actually help bring you to orgasm. Focus on the feeling and just let your breathing match the feeeling you're having. It's ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my boyfriend any more!
Q. Hi... I live with my boyfriend. and i just cant stand him anymore. He smokes pot and he trys to force me to smoke and i hate that. Also he got mad because i didnt wanna smoke, i was watching t.v and he turned it off because he i didnt want to smoke. ...
A. 20 May 2010: Yup, sounds like a first class A-hole. I'm with everyone else, ditch him. The living situation can be tricky, so you may want to look into getting your own place, or at least moving out first. Maybe when you hit him with the fact that you're ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is shy in bed
Q. My boyfriend of almost three years is really shy when it comes to sex. He wont try anything new, he doesn't like me touching him or doing anything to him. We still have sex but its a case of having a quick kiss, clothes off and thats us having sex. ...
A. 19 May 2010: What Tisha said...... (read in full...)
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