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36-40,
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writes:My boyfriend has a two inch penis and he does not satisfy me sexually. He doesn't even know how to kiss properly, he grabs my chest aggressively, and does not give me much pleasure. He's a heavy set guy and I'm significantly smaller than him. When's on top, it's uncomfortable, I feel like he's crushing me after a while! I love my boyfriend a lot, he's great on all other aspects but the sex (and kissing) is horrible. Are there some other positions that would be good for a guy with a small penis. How do I tell him nicely, that I don't like the way he kisses or handles me when it comes to touching. Please bear in mind he's not really experienced when it comes to sex (only a few encounters).
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 May 2010):
 The best thing you can do is be honest but empathetic. Here is something else you may try. Tell him that you've heard about something that is a little different but that you want to try. That thing being you lead, in every way. He can only do what you direct him to. Make it a game if you want. For example, I've gotten used to reading what girls like while kissing. I like to go in for the initial, but let them lead the rest. Meaning, some girls like forceful, some like soft, some like lots of tongue... Anyway, if you demonstrate for him what you like, hopefully he'll understand what's going on. Also, let him know what's working. If you have a really good kiss, tell him that was awesome. He'll remember, trust me. As for positions, You may want to try moving to the edge of the bed, where he would be standing and you on the bed. That way he isn't crushing you. Of course you on top can help control that as well. Doggy will alsokeep him from laying on top of you.Also, sometimes a simple "please be gentle" will go a long way. Ultimately it's about comfort and communication. You have to be comfortable enough to tell him your feelings, and he has to be comfortable enough with you to understand that you are just trying to make things better, not put him down. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Darling, I had the same problem- minus the kissing. The penis thing isn't going to get better- no matter what style. "The size doesn't matter" quote is a complete lie. Maybe 4 or 5 inches, though small, can satisfy you, but three or less. . . it doesn't work. One: Tell him he's being too agressive (boob grabbing and whatnot), hurts you, etc. You have to be honest in the relationship. Even if he has experience or not, he has to know what you want in the sex- YOU have to be satisfied, too! It's not all about him, and no matter how much you love him, you're going to want to be satisfied sometime, too! Maybe even ask him to go down on your or something- try out his tongue!
Be honest, that's all you can be!
Luck!
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reader, RyanS  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Next time, ask him to be more "gentle" in kissing/touching you. He will try to improve. Kissing expertise is subjective. If you have preferences, please guide him. I know its difficult to talk about such things. Give it a try.
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