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writes:hi aunties and uncles. my bf wants to have sex with me. we have been going out for a year now. i don't want to because I am too young - plus there is a chance I could get pregnant, so I said no to him. BUT, he keeps touching me and kissing me and makes me want to but I really want to save sex for marriage. every time he asks I always say no. he doesn't get mad or anything he completely understands but I can tell he gets annoyed about it. I'm scared he'll break up with me if I don't. I really love him and want to please him but I feel a bit selfish for not giving him what he wants. what should I do?? please help! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello and thanks for all the advice. i told him about the vow i made to save sex for marriage and he didnt take too well to that! so i ended up dumping him because he didnt talk to me for a whole week after i told him about my vow so i decided it was time to end it. thanks again for all the advice people xx
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Maybe you really love him, but he doesnt really love you. Not as much as he hopes to get into your pants if he just nags about it long enough.
Tell him "no sex until there's a ring on this finger and I have a new last name!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Go with what your brain is telling you, not your labido
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 May 2010):
The moment you allow a man to make you feel this way, you need to look carefully at the relationship. Apart from anything else, you are too young to have sex legally. Then you feel like you're too young, and you want to wait until you marriage. Yet your boyfriend continues to pressure you. A good boyfriend wouldn't do that. He's trying it on, which leads me to suspect that he's just after using you. If he does dump you over this, then you will know that he wasn't good enough for you. I think you need to clearly say that you are not going to have sex, and that he is jeopardizing your relationship by continually asking you or sex. Don't be used or pressurized.
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 YOU are feeling selfish for not giving him what he wants??? Girl you got it all wrong.It sounds to me he is the one who acts selfishly and good thing for you that at your age you are smart enough to act and think wisely. Your thoughts are so right! Indeed I think too that you are too young for sex and good for you that you take in consideration all the consequences of that. Don't give in, do the right thing! Best wishes
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reader, Blod +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Do what you feel's right, and if that's waiting then fine.
You feel too young to have sex, and you're too young in the eyes of the law also. Sex under the age of 16 is illegal.
Your boyfriend should respect your feelings. There's no point having sex if you don't feel ready and don't want to. It'll ruin the whole experience and might make things more difficult between you and your boyfriend.
I think you should try talking to him about how you feel. Tell him that you're not ready and feel that it annoys him when you say no. Being open about these things should help you two feel closer to each other. If he breaks up with you for refusing to have sex with him, then he's not worth it.
Good luck.
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reader, Carbar329 +, writes (20 May 2010):
You have to know yourself. If your not ready than I think you would be the one to now. And if breaks up with just cause you don't have sex with him that means he really didn't care about you or respect Joe you felt. You aren't being selfish at all. If you think your to young to have a baby or you just aren't ready than don't force yourself. you will know when the time Is right and he wil wait till that time comes if he really loved you
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 May 2010):
 KeighleySky is right, don't rush anything, and if he is a good guy he'll wait until you're ready. Sex is something that too many people rush into and end up paying dire consequences for. Go with your instincts, they seem to be spot on from where I'm sitting.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (20 May 2010):
 If you feel you too young then your too young. You have to know in your mind and your body that you want to have sexual intercourse with him. Toucing and kissing is perfectly fine, you don't have to have sex to have pleasure. Maybe you could do some foreplay without the sex, if your getting aroused it might help with your relationship. But DO NOT do anything you dont want to. He's not pressuring you so he's a good guy. And i respect you so much for wanting to wait until your married to have sex. If he loves you then he should be willing to wait that long.
Hope i helped :) x
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