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writes:My boyfriend found out that i have had sexual activities in the past, and he wants me to do sexual things with him. I don't want to, but I feel bad not doing anything because I know he reallyy wants it! I feel horny at times, but when it actually comes to the time of us doing stuff, I get really scared. I'm worried that he will leave me because I love him to pieces. What do I do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): Tough situation.
The best thing for you is to stick to your guns. That is healthy, that is self-respecting, etc.
But at the same time if I was in his place I don't think I would stick around. Not if I knew you'd been messing with previous guys and then holding off with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Dear I_Dont_Know_Writes,You are so young to be having sex with boys firstly. Far too young to be making decisions about boys making demands on you to do things you obviously don't feel comfortable with. So many questions on here from young girls under 16 asking about sex, as though it is completely detached from a healthy caring relationship. You deserve to be treated as a person, not as an object for the satisfaction of something physical only. I would be interested to know how old these boys are, and if they are much older than you, this would seem worse than if they were the same age, as they should know better. As much as you desire sex, feel horny as one reply states, which personally, is something I feel at 13-15 we should be careful to support. Not only because you are still under 16, but for your own emotional well-being for the future. Whatever you feel uncomfortable with, is a sure sign, it's NOT right for you, or you are just not ready, so don't allow any boy to pressure you into anything. If a boy leaves you because you don't do something sexually, be sure he is ONLY around for the sexual favours. Jilly x
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Definitely don't let yourself get pressured into anything. You are really too young for this anyway. Give it time. If he waits, great, if not, then that's his loss. Don't let him guilt you with your past. You can even go as far as to say, "What am I to you, just a sex object? I'm not proud of what I did in the past, and you hounding me about it really hurts." I think you see where I'm going with that.
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reader, Lakisha +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Don't do anything that u dotn feel confortable about it he feels like that then u should find someone else to date because if he's supposed to be your boyfriend then he should understand what's makes u feel unconfortable if he doesn't know then let him go cause that forcing.
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reader, Blod +, writes (20 May 2010):
 If you feel pressured and uncomfortable about it, then don't do it. If he leaves for refusing to do it then you don't deserve him. Do what you feel's right.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Your attitude is right. Do not go straight for sexual thing, but allow sex desire to be as horny as possible, as high as sky.....you will notice the quality of life with this attitude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Honestly i think you should do what you want. dont let your man try n tell u to do sexual things if your not ready. dont feel bad because thats wat most guys want. if he really cares for you he will respect your choice. you cant keep a man by giving them sexual relations and i know that from experience.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (20 May 2010):
 You stick to your guns, sweetie. He respects your boundaries. Period. There is NO guy worth you forcing yourself to do what you're not comfortable doing. There is no reason for you to feel bad or guilty. SO WHAT if he wants it? You're really not old enough to be dealing with pressures of this kind, anyway. You don't need to use sex to hang onto a guy, honey. Get that through your head now. He doesn't like it? Tell there's the door, don't let it hit you on the way out. YOU must respect you before anyone else will! So respect yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Don't do anything you want to do. I'll let you into a secret you can't keep a guy by giving them sex. If he cares about you he will wait until you are ready.
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