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anonymous
writes: Hi guys and girls...Well the last few days ive been increasingly worried about my boyfriend.Last friday we went to a 21st birthday party...i was really worried because even after being with him for a year and a half i hadn't met all his friends. Anyway this party was my opportunity to get to know them all, so although i was abrehensive because i didn't know anyone i was really really excited. Anyway i went to the party and met several of his friends and their partners. Everyone was friendly and i was having fun. So my boyfriend introduced me to his best friend (who ive kinda met on other occasions but never had the chance to chat) and his fiance. Anyway throughout the night my boyfriend told me that he wanted to dance with his best mates fiance, then started telling me how great she is, not really mentioning his friend. She was very touchy feely with him and was putting her hand on his thigh and things like that. After all this i found pictures of her and my boyfriend out on the town (she was with her boyfriend too and other people) but when i asked him who was going he never mentioned her. What im wondering is, should i have cause for worry? Or am i being silly and insecure? i did question him about why he was being so complimentary of her and he said because he really wants us to get along...what do you guys think, its bugging me! thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Well...the hand on the leg thing doesn't sound too good, to be honest. He also didn't mention her going out, which could be a sign that he's being very secretive about her, for some reason.
On the other hand, as it's his best friend's partner, he may feel inclined to make an effort with her, especially as she's going to be a big part of his best friend's life. But I can't help but wonder if this is just a bit TOO flirtacious.
I think you should talk to him about it, just ask is there anything going on between them. It's not fair of him to act this way with another woman, especially infront of you, so any doubt of him you're having is completley understandable.
But talk to him about it, you'll probably feel alot better :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 May 2010):
Hard to say, everyone is different. She may just be a touchy person, I've known plenty. Then again, if they are going out together, just the two of them, then there is cause for concern.
Chances are that he likes her on some level. That being said, it doesn't mean he would ever pursue something with her. Part of the Bro Code is that Bro's Girlfriends are off limits. I doubt he'd cross that line.
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