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*abababa
writes:There are these two girls I met recently that I like at the moment and I'd like your opinions on what I should do.The first girl is a kind hearted girl next door kind of girl that your mom would LOVE you to date, but has been cheated on in all her relationships so she has some trust issues, she's a bit shy too, personallity wise me and her are almost exactly the same, she even plays guitar and plays the same video games I do, there no doubt in my mind that we would get along great but the physicial attraction isn't that strong even if we didn't date I know we will make great friends.The second girl is a really sweet girl too, physicially she's like the exact girl I'm looking for but I don't really know anything about her personallity wise, or at least not much. She's a very happy open person and there's something about her that just draws me to her and get my attention. I'd like to take her on a date or something to get to know her better, but I'd feel like an asshole for doing that while the other girl likes me.Any advice for me?
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reader, babababa +, writes (22 November 2008):
babababa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you both, you have given me alot to think about
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 You always need to know what you want and why. That's the advice. If you don't know that, think until you get to that point.
One girl is sweet, the other one is pretty. I think the "sustainable" way to go is this: get to know the pretty one. If you like her personality, then you know who to go for. If you don't, well, you know that, too.
I could give you the standard advice and say "Go for the sweet one..." However, in real life you would always wonder what would have happened if only you had.... and then you might take the sweet girl only to dump her later. So, go for the pretty one, not for her looks, but because you shouldn't break the sweet one's heart.
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (21 November 2008):
hiyah, why is it you have to have a girl to date automatically? can you not just have a mate and see where it goes? if it goes that is... i cannot tell you who to 'choose' as i think its kind of unfair they are both people with feelings and your dobting which one suits you can you not think deeper? (sorry to sound like im goin on at you)the first girl i think, is your mate for life, you have the same interests and you get on well so carry on as mates it doesnt always have to be more.the second girl you mentioned i think you need to get to know more and after that decide rather than judge her before you know (if you get me). sometimes it might all look good on the outside but its not all there on the inside which can be a shock so dont judge before you know. you dont seem overjoyed with either so maybe youve just found a coupple of mates? which is ok you know! i just dont think you really want either that much so rather than almost 'making do' (that sounds bad on both of them sorry) why not hold on for the one that ticks all your boxes and gives you that feeling inside that your lacking with both of these girls.good luck in whatever you decide to do xxx
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